• solsangraal@lemmy.zip
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    no one under 50 gives a rat’s ass about great grandma’s “look at me i’m victorian high society” china cabinet. when i managed an antique store we had more old people coming in trying to sell their shit than we had anyone coming in to buy. went out of business because antiques are dead for the next who knows how many generations

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      It certainly depends on the item but I agree that no one cares about the junk grammy bought twenty years ago from Sears that was meant to look like the real stuff. At the same time, though, I’ve been on a real Meissen binge for the past few months. Good china definitely has some value and is beautiful to look at and display

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        It’s an interesting market. Some individual pieces on Missing Pieces go for more than an almost complete set would to someone walking into a thrift shop.

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        25 days ago

        everyone’s got something they’ll spend extra money on just for its looks. increasingly though, people are realizing that the $150 plates aren’t doing any better of a job holding their dinner than the $20 walmart plates

        not only that, but the idea that you need a different plate for bread, a plate for entree, a plate for salad, a plate for pasta–it’s asinine. gotta be one of the bigger scams of the industrial age. same thing with utensils: you’ve got your dinner fork, dessert fork, fish fork, salad fork, fruit fork, and on and on. um excuse me, fuck all that noise, give me 1 plate and 1 fork, and call me an uncultured philistine if it makes everyone feel better, but i’m not buying all that crap

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      Never made sense to me to keep cutlery and plates and stuff that never gets used to show “yes this is the place where eating happens.”

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        “and according to my new wall art, this is the room where we live, laugh, and/or love. Namaste”

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        back in the day bored housewives used to love to throw dinner parties just to show off their fancy serveware, pretending that they’re downton abbey or something. i’ve experienced it, since it’s the same shit at every holiday get together. it’s almost surreal, sitting in the midst of a perpetual conversation about dinner plates, very similar to dudes at a superbowl party, except the plates are the superbowls

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        C’mon man, you know how big retro stuff is

        There are people unironically out there listening to tapes on warbly old walkmans just for the aesthetic of a nostalgia they’ll never have

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      I read Second Hand by Adam Minter. Apparently it’s all the rage in some developing nations. To the point where the antique store owners he interviews in the Midwest have a direct line to some dude in Africa.

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      Complete nonsense.

      Not to sound too harsh but this is just so silly, blanket assuming that everybody on the planet under the age of 50 are not interested in something that’s been pretty commonly popular, just because your individual experience of running a shop in one town in one country happens to suggest that cool stuff like this isn’t popular.

      How do you know your town’s demographics were a completely average in every way representation of you own nation’s demographics (nevermind the world) - not skewed by age ranges, gender, wealth, occupational discrepancies, etc?

      How do you know your failed business is due to your product being unpopular, Vs your business being poorly advertised to its target demographic (who you think doesn’t exist…), or maybe overpriced compared to the available expendable income of the local population, or in a location that wasn’t ideal for target demos to travel to, or they didn’t like the vibe of the place, etc etc.

      There’s so many possibilities that it’s ridiculous to make such a sweeping blanket statement about everyone’s tastes based on your extremely subjective and limited experience.

      For example, myself and many of my friends, colleagues and acquaintances would kill for that collection, it’s rad, and we’re decades away from 50 haha, many of us are in our 20s! We’re slowly building our own collections up as we go through life and loving it :-)

      I myself just recently got a lovely porcelain teapot that now sits on the mantle next to my other Victorian porcelain, glassware, etc, and I love my display and storage cabinetry, I plan to build my own eventually using traditional joinery <3 I’m on the lookout for more tea china still too, not enough for High Tea with more guests yet, and that simply won’t do! :-D

      I know I come across a bit harsh here and I’m sure you’re lovely, just consider not making blanket assumptions about the interests and tastes of the 5,500,000,000~ people who are under the age of 50, you know? :-)

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    My mom has 3 different china cabinets and more glasses than the royal family. We only use the ones in the kitchen and maybe 4 in the new years.

    The other day she said ahe would sell one of the sets, a very old time like tea set, but see that set was the last gift my granpa gave my grandma before he died and they are both gone…and my mom is getting older… and I had a anxiety attack thinking that she would get rid of that and started crying.

    I think stuff Is just stuff, but idk man, it did hurt. Boy I’ll have a bad time the day i have to get rid of those fucking glasses.

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      Step 1: Take pictures so that you can look back when you want to. The items are gone, but the memories are not. Step 2: Give them to someone who will appreciate them. Tell them the story so they can truly know what they meant to your family.

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          I’ll probably do this. China and glasses break, speacilly when is used. At least I wpuld feel like the stuff served it’s purpuse and tbf in my house plates, glasses and cups break like once a week hhHahHhh

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          My friend has a set of napkins that is so important that they have never been used. Drives me bonkers.

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            Am I your friend?

            So, weird similarities…I have a bag of napkins, like, the paper ones that you but from the store. I guess my dad bought them years ago and they just sat in his room, never used. After he passed, I figured, hey - free napkins.

            I can’t bring myself to use them because they smell like his room.

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              This sounds like a completely reasonable reason to skip using napkins. I love nostalgia and scent and have a few people I wish I could smell again.

              No, my friend can’t use their napkins because they’re too high quality to be used. Such high quality that they’re never used. But never-used napkins that don’t smell like your late father’s room are not high quality at all. I think they’re effectively worthless.

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      I bought a set of 4 matched plates off eBay. It may be shallow consolation but some of those plates and what-not go to loving homes. My plates are classy AF and I love them

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    Oh gawd, don’t remind me. My mom already tried selling it and couldn’t find anyone to buy it. Of course, she blames kids these days for not valuing her obviously valuable collection…

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      you can’t reason with them. no matter how much you try to tell my mom it’s not the 90s anymore, she absolutely refuses to accept any reality other than her 10 giant plastic bins stuffed with beanie babies is a priceless collection

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        Well, if the market so undervalues that stuff, the logical step would be to go buy other people’s beanie babies for cheap, before people realize how much they are actually worth. And then sell heaps of them for profit, once people come to their senses.

        That’s obviously a very stupid idea, that you could pose to her, and let her argue why she doesn’t do that. Maybe it triggers a realization about how value is constructed.
        But maybe it’s not worth the risk of her taking up on this very stupid idea.

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    When my mother dies and I have to deal with all her crystal, I’ll get roaring drunk and spend the night smashing those useless fucking things in the fire, cackling like a madman. I fucking hated looking at all that money spent on utterly worthless sparkly shit.

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        Spoiler alert: they’re probably not buying mass produced China sets even if they are nice.

        Source: me exhausting all avenues of trying to part with vintage China set(s) and replacements.com telling me to politely fuck off.

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      Mum pushing us her useless and now worthless silver crap. Nah thanks, I’m not slaving over polishing stupid fancy forks.

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          Sadly most of this boomer junk is just coated and doesn’t have much silver in it otherwise yep, chuck it into Mount Doom for some cash.

          Mum is already doing it with the jewelry so at least that’s not just sitting there gathering dust.

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    My grandad labelled all his tat with little coloured stickers. After he died, his children went round peeling most of their own stickers off so they wouldn’t get lumbered with it.

    Nobody really wants a bunch of nicotine stained nick-knacks. Most of it ended up at the charity shop.

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    After my mom died, my dad sold her China to her friend for a nickel. Which is great, because I would have just taken it to the VV Boutique and donated it.

    I kind of miss some of the things my mom had around the house my whole life, but also I’d I kept it all, there wouldn’t be room for my stuff. And I’m not putting Trypticon in a box so I can display some Franklin Mint goose plate.

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    These teacups are much more charming than stacks of mass-produced printed mugs.

    On the other hand, Grandma, you’d better not know that I’ll be washing them in the dishwasher on a daily basis.

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      In 40 years time there’s going to be a bunch of 30 year old Gen-Betas going “What the fuck am I supposed to do with all my grandmother’s Rae Dunn crap? All this tacky white porcelain, just huck it in the ocean and let it erode.”

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        “I’ve been trying to complete my Dad’s collection of games on steam, in the last year I’ve completed 365 games and gotten up to 1%!”

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        Lmao my niece and nephew are going to enjoy inheriting my brother’s hundreds upon hundreds of D&D minis.

        At least we use (some of) them to play with though, they’re not (only) for the display cabinet.

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          If your niece and/or nephew plays DnD with you, they legitimately might.

          You know a major reason why thrift stores are overflowing with Gramma’s China? Gramma failed to instill any love or appreciation for them. You hear once or twice in your youth “Don’t play near that cabinet! You’ll break the dishes!” Then they sit in that cabinet for the next 30 years entirely untouched. Because they’re too precious even for Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner. So the young’uns don’t build up any personal attachment to these things. So the second your triple comes un-bypassed those dishes are going skeet shooting.

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    I wonder to this day what happened to mom’s Lladro figurines and the Royal Dalton tea cups. I’m sure my sister got Nana’s sterling and Mom’s plate. It’s really sad that the Danish modern furniture had to go before she moved up here but she was happy with IKEA and CostPlus replacements.

    I got her pots, which was all that mattered to me. There’s something symmetrical in making Boeff Bourguignon in the same pot you learned to make beef stew at age 14.

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      I got my maternal grandma’s ancient le creuset enamel pots when she died. They’re in perfect condition and we use them all the time.

      She loved to cook, my mum hates to cook, and as luck would have it I married a woman who loves to cook. So the pots are in good hands 🥰

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    Ok I am an outlier here but honestly I kinda like stuff like that. I’m not gonna pretend it’s worth a million dollars (like they would be cool with you selling it anyway) but real China is actually really pretty and sturdy if you take care of it and has a lot of neat little pieces of history and stories related to it. I like antiques and the look of old stuff.

    However

    My mom once tried to give us old pilsner glasses, and the story was “Grandpa bought them and didn’t like them so they’ve been in this cupboard since then”, and then got really disappointed when I was seeing if a friend of mine wanted one since he’s a real beer guy who might like fancy glasses.

    So yeah if you already have plates, and your family history isn’t as great or interesting to you, don’t feel obligated to keep stuff you don’t like. Donate it (to anything other than goodwill or salvation army) or whatever.

    Edit; the irony was that night I got some china dishes that I didn’t care about. Thanks irony gods

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      Thing is everybody’s gramma has a cabinet full of china because it’s mass produced. Just like diamond engagement rings or high school proms people in the mid-20th century made up a tradition of gifting sets of china to young women because of all the fancy dinners every single middle class woman would be hosting throughout her life.

      What happened is a bunch of fancy looking plates sat in cupboards in dining rooms for decades while actual meals were eaten off other also mass-produced but slightly cheaper plates that were stored in the kitchen cabinets.

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        Is it some universal thing? I thought it was USSR-specific thing.

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    My family moved my grandam out. So much glassware that they thought was going to be worth gold since its “local made back when this town meant something an had an industry and hard working people”. Probably had a dozen different sets. I don’t have the heart to tell her no one wants sets of old ass cups made in hick-town USA even if they are nice. Only took a few for memories.

    Not to mention all my dads old toys they held onto thinking some one was going to make bank selling them. Just a trash heap unless you got someone who wants to make it there life’s work selling smelly toys on ebay. The top we priced out was worth $60 minus the dry-rotting in a basement for 60ish years.

    Hell, I got glassware from the house I moved into they just left behind and I can’t get rid of it. May just leave it for the next sucker.

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      My aunt was losing her shit, that all stuff dropped in price from when she collected it in the nineties…

      Tastes change.

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        Old beat up matchbox cars that barely survived his childhood, and these army action figures in space capsules(can’t remember the specific brand, think it was big in the 80s GI Joe?). Looked them up and in great condition could get $100 but these were ok at best. Most of the toys just went to my sisters kids if they were interested, not sure whats still around.

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    I go all out for Halloween. I’ve learned it’s cheaper to buy Garage sale/thrift store stuff like this for creepy decorations, than it is to get stuff from Halloween stores or even the dollar store sometimes. I have the coolest “potion” bottles made of old decanters. The massive influx of stuff that came into thrift stores after covid started, was awesome, in the most morbid way.