I knew this guy. He always wanted to suck my Schlong or f with me. Told him i ain’t gay. He replied he neither, he just finds vaginas disgusting and schlongs beautiful, hence it’s not gay at all. He just prefers guys coz they have said dingdongs.
Told him that was somehow very gay. He got really really really pissed at me for hinting he might be gay. He hates gays and find them repulsive. It was at this point that i realized, he verbally held me hostage. How to reply to that? I didn’t know.
Ask him if looking in a mirror scares him
I wonder if he beats himself up after jerking off because he just gave some homo a handy
It would be the logical thing to do. Be consistent!
I can’t. We didn’t recover from me somehow voicing his gayness might be a teeny bit gay.
The question that now comes to my mind: What is gay exactly? Is this specifically just when you like dicks? Or are also looks coming into okay here?
Are you also gay if you like people who look like women but have a penis? If yes, are you then straight if you prefer people that look like men but have a vagina?
Afaik there are also people that have both. If you fall in love with them without having ever seen their genitals, are you then still automatically gay?
Never thought about that before tbh.
Sexuality is a spectrum. Gay is more of a vibe than a science.
Well in his case it wasn’t just the dick itself. Women were “disgusting”. So the dick needed to be attached to a manly man.
What exactly is gay? To me it’s when a manly man likes manly men. If you’d fall in love with a woman and THEN see her male genitals, it wouldn’t be gay. She just was an ass to not tell you earlier 😁 If you’d see both genitals or none, it wouldn’t be either. And yes, there always have been those with both or none.
There are men that present as straight, have wives, and occasionally engage in gay sex.
I believe those are called “republicans”.
Ungh, perfection.
Yeah bisexual men claiming to be straight isn’t new
This is why the term “Men who have sex with Men” or MSM was coined. Trying to study the spread of HIV/AIDS was impossible before that because these men don’t identify as gay.
I think Ice-T has something so say about this
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The dramatic music at the end always kills me lmfao
Lol why is the dude so sad?
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I wonder how many of them have little to no sexual or romantic interest in persons presenting as their gender? Like, I’m trying to mentally map someone who likes to engage in sexual activities with someone of the same gender and yet only really have an attraction to a part of that gender, rather than be attracted to the entirety of the person as many of us are.
There’s gotta be a legitimate term for this.
I like dicks a lot more than dudes in general, I think. Dudes still kinda hot but dicks are aweaome. I just go by bi, pan might be more appropriate? Idk. Whatever
I’m heteroromantic and pansexual, if that’s what you mean. I’m down to have sex and attracted sexually to people, regardless of their gender, but I don’t want to date women. I don’t get butterflies about women (maybe once or twice in my life), and I just don’t have the romantic pull towards them that I do men.
My husband is actually about the same. He’s never dated or really wanted to date men, but he does enjoy having sex with them. He tends to just identify as bi (as do I, if I’m not being really specific), but also rarely volunteers any information about it, which most people assume means straight, especially given he has a wife.
This makes sense. I’ve struggled to follow the different monikers and identities. Fully, I just accept people and recognize and respect what they want to be identified as to the best of my ability, and apologize if I forget as I adjust. Thank you for putting terms to it. I didn’t realize Pansexual meant that in context.
Yeah, the labels are a lot, which is why I generally just go with bi. I do always get a twinge, because it’s a pretty big barrier that homophobes think LGBTQA+ people are perverts, and we need to break down the idea that it’s all about sex, but then we actually use the terms that are all about sex, but the people who know enough to know that aren’t likely to be homophobic.
Pan vs. bi is also a sticky situation, because going by etymology, bi people should be attracted to two gender poles and pan people to the entire spectrum. Most (I hope) bi people reject this and don’t see a difference between bisexuality and pansexuality, but some transphobes use it as a dog whistle. I tend to ID as bi, but if I get any kind of terf vibes, I’ll specify that I’m pan.
Fully, I just accept people and recognize and respect what they want to be identified as to the best of my ability, and apologize if I forget as I adjust.
That’s all we can do.
A few colleagues would make drinking games of shenanigans like this.
I even know couples who have set up tinders for each other and see who can get the most matches or starters.
It may indirectly affect the other users experiences unfortunately.
Indirectly?
Well I would assume most people using these apps knows not every match or conversation will go somewhere.
Theres also a massive difference to be upfront like the meme, and dragging it out and leading them on.
If you are just looking for likes or matches, where’s the harm in that?
I even know couples who have set up tinders for each other and see who can get the most matches or starters.
Sounds healthy. I can’t see how this could ever go wrong /s
Loser pays for dinner that week. It’s called trust lmfao.
I’ve ran into cis women on Grindr. My mom called them the super non-PC term “fag hags.” That’s the bad F word for those on Lemmy World cuz I’m pretty sure that word is censored on that instance.
I’m on Lemmy World and I can see it too.
I’ve heard that and fruit flies.
fruit flies
I like that one. lol
Lemmy.world censors only “faggot” and the N word. Lemmy.ml censors “bitch” and various slurs. I believe their users can still see comments with these words in (?), though they cannot post them themselves
Am I missing something? I have absolutely no idea what you guys are talking about.
Is there a slur somewhere in this post or the comment section? And TIL that Lemmy communities can censor words. I’m from blahaj.zone btw
Lemmy instances are able to censor words; it can’t be set per community. When viewing a comment from an instance that censors some word, that word will be replaced with “removed”. This applies to both comments sent by users of that instance, and comments sent by external users.
Blahaj doesn’t censor any slurs
Blahaj doesn’t censor any slurs
That feels like a weird sentence
Only federates up-votes and doesn’t censor slurs, I find that funnier than I should
Ah, thank you for explaining.
Bizarrely, the reason I’d asked the question at all is because your comment that I’d replied to was rendered as a top-level comment rather than a reply to another comment.
So I was wondering if, rather than individual words being censored, entire posts/comments were being hidden, but not replies to them. I guess that’s actually just a bug or something, because I can see what you were replying to now.
I’ve had this experience of feeling like I’m not seeing the full thread / that someone is replying to something I can’t see a handful of times. It’s a weird one.
feddit.uk doesn’t censor anything at the moment, because I accidentally broke the slur regex.
Normally, users from censored instances can still see rude words, they just get removed “in flight” if they try to post anywhere.
Firmly believe we should ban all mention of Scunthorpe from the instance.
What was “removed”?
Aha, so it seems that other instances do censor external comments for their own users. It was “fag-got”.
So they censor removed and not fag. That makes zero sense lol.
So thet censor removed
Hmm
Well the first one has basically one meaning that’s derogatory (including the definition of a bundle of sticks used for kindling; that’s literally why it became a slur as it implies you want to burn them) while the three letter word is also slang for a cigarette in much of the world.
removed and fag are used interchangeably in much of the world. Both have other means, both are derogatory and both mean gay.
Makes no sense to censor one and not the other.
Yeah they’re used interchangeably by the gay men I know
The 6-letter version means a bundle of sticks, or a stick, which is how it came to mean cigarette. The 3-letter version is an abbreviation of the 6-letter version. Both of them mean cigarette, and both of them are an anti-gay slur.
I just assumed it also censored the shorter form, since I ran into that before when quoting Martin from The Simpsons. I was wrong.
The non-offensive word I have seen used for a person who seeks out relationships with homosexual people despite being the opposite gender is “beard”. This is derived from the fact that it helps the male in the relationship present outwardly as a “real man” with a “normal relationship” in settings/societies where homosexuality is not considered acceptable to one degree or another. Also, sometimes homosexual couples of opposite genders will “beard” for each other in a mutually-beneficial dynamic.
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I’m not sure they’re actually the same thing tho. Beards are used by gay men to seem straight. The term my mom used was against the women who just had a fetish for gay men.
Yeah, a beard is a mutually beneficial arrangement. You won’t see straight women trying to pick up gay men on Grindr because they want to be a beard. They’ll be doing it because they fetishize turning them straight or whatever.
I see it.
what, are you federated from lemmy.world and being salty?
No I just ran into people asking me what the removed word was in a previous comment.
“I’ll light a fag everytime I think of you.”
“Oh Buster, you’re such a pussy”
Definitely bi, or the autist in me wants to believe this man is lonely for male companionship/friendship and doesn’t know where to get it
Lactose curious is a thing, one of my coworkers will have dairy on special occasions and plans for the aftermath
Just use lactase. No reason to Plan for the aftermath
Using the beforemath to avoid the aftermath!
Plot twist: they’re bisexual
Fag Hag?
Is he wrong?
Yes, they’ll arrest you for that in Wisconsin.
Fucking Sconnies. Culver’s vegetarian burger option is a cheese puck, which sounds great but in reality an impossible burger would taste better. But it’s Culver’s and they’re all about the cheese. I’ve stopped eating there because the whole thing feels like an insult in a way and I feel like a fat ass if I just order a large cheese curd and fries.
I mean swiping grindr while not being gay is like you’re lactose intolerant while picking non-lactose-free milk.
I mean, I do that.
But I have these little chewable pills that help with that.
What’s the straight man seeking gay sex equivalent of Lactase? Poppers?
