How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.

Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don’t call people eggs, like ever, it’s extremely uncool.

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    9 months ago

    Is this really real? Egg seems like such a fun and friendly thing to call someone, like saying they have a lot of potential! I don’t want look it up now cuz I’m gonna get my heart broken. Thank you at least for the warning, assuming you are being genuine.

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      9 months ago

      It’s ok to call yourself an egg, but calling other people eggs is like saying “I know your gender identity better than you do”.

      I’d say the only time it’s ok to call someone else an egg is if it’s past tense, if the person has transitioned, and if their transition is public knowledge.

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        9 months ago

        I’ve always thought of it like the prime directive: you shouldn’t interfere, you should only be there in a supportive fashion when it happens.

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        9 months ago

        Oof, that sounds so horrible! I’m not even sure that using egg in past-tense seems right. That feels like drinking with buddies when someone who’s known you your whole life starts regaling the group with the last time you peed the bed. Sure, it’s out of your control and there’s nothing to be particularly ashamed of, but why you gotta bring that up, yo?

    • Baby Shoggoth [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      9 months ago

      An egg is a term in the LGBTQ community for someone who is exploring their gender or is in denial of it. When an egg cracks/hatches, a trans person has accepted who they really are. Calling someone an egg is telling them they’re trans, and is not something anyone should dictate about someone else.