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>first time in gym
>my very first exercise is bench
>next to me are some zoomers and wiggers
>they snicker and say to themselves “This due looks like he sits behind computer 24/7”
>About to cry
>make up some bullshit like im thirsty and go to toilets so I can pack and leave
>Some dude stops me and say if he can use bench
>It’s motherfucking Chad just like from the memes
>say yea
>Asks if I will spot him
>o-okay
>We start to talk he noticed im first timer in the gym
>He teaches me lifts we talk for hour and for this whole hour it feels like im safe and protected
>Mfw this chad says “see you tomorrow okay ? I have leg day and i will teach you deadlifts”
Is this how chads are ? Is this how it feels to die for king? It felt like dram but it was al real.
My king
My liege
WE WILL MAKE IT !
Fr gym bros tend to be super wholesome to newcomers if you ask for advice. Not all of them, for sure, but I’ve had good luck.
you’re essentially asking somebody to talk about their hobby, so it makes sense
Absolutely. Everyone started somewhere, vast majority of the time everyone at the gym is rooting for you. And the people who aren’t are probably not worth respecting enough to care at all about their opinion
it can be scary to talk to strangers at the gym, but I’ve had nothing but good experiences asking for help whether it’s form checks, spotting, asking to work in if the equipment you need is being used (help them load/unload their weight if you do this!), or even asking for help finding some weights or equipment (i wasn’t sure if the gym I was at had 2.5lb plates, asked, dude helped me look between his sets and found some). Of course there are always the occasional assholes, but I think they’re pretty rare, especially if you’re not an asshole first
Incels finding out the world isn’t all that scary is always wholesome fun
Incels
I’m so sick of how this word has become a slur for any guy that isn’t a “Chad”
You can barely even approach a woman respectfully without coming off as a creep for having the audacity to approach a woman at all.
You don’t even have to be ugly you just have to have the wrong “vibe” which means anything other than being a well off attractive man with no hint of emotional baggage.
This isn’t even a solitary incel talking point it’s even brought up by women about how men no longer approach them.
Almost like every man who isn’t overly attractive with a well paying job being labeled a “creep” has caused most men to just say “fuck it it’s not worth the effort”
And you can call me an incel but the statistics don’t lie that men have stopped approaching women because it’s not worth the potential headache
Incels
They’ve touched a nerve, have they?
aproach a women respectfully
I hear this over and over by the likes of you. What does that even mean? You walk up to random strangers and expect not to come of as a creep? Yeah right…
statistics don’t lie
Ah yes all the numbers ans studies you’ve provided lol
Here is a intreresting fact: Nationwide, 81% of women and 43% of men reported experiencing some form of sexual harassment and/or assault in their lifetime. https://www.nsvrc.org/statistics
I wonder why women might be more carefull…
Touch some grass, smh
Nah he’s completely correct but gets downvotes because people think he’s defending incels because those people are morons.
Being a socially awkward loner is not what an incel is. It’s just become a catchall for people society deemed weird, instead of the actual incels who are actually bad people.
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you walk up to random strangers and expect not to come off as a creep
Yes. That’s the norm. That’s been the norm. How the fuck else are you supposed to meet people?
Y’all can wave sexual assault statistics all you want but thinking anyone that approaches you is just a creep only deters people who aren’t creeps.
All this extra hostility just makes guys who are even slightly insecure (me) just completely nope out entirely.
But I can sit here and try to explain how I’m not an incel and don’t really have anything in common with most actual incels but this is the Internet and you’ve already made up your mind about me so this whole conversation is pointless.
Nah I’m with you. I don’t use spyware apps (surprised? Shouldn’t be, I’m on lemmy lol, and was 2y before ths exodus.) so the only one I could use is alovoa which I hear nobody uses anyway, and even then I haven’t uploaded a pic of myself for privacy reasons since before 2014 so I’m not thrilled about that prospect, and the only acceptible place to talk to a strange woman is “the bar” but since I more or less quit drinking (my max is now like 3 in a night because I quit for a year and now have no tolerance and have to work at 7am anyway), and all the women I’ve met in the bar so far over these last 10yr seem to be “functioning for a month or so” alcoholics (the last one was abusive to boot), and now-a-days all I do is work, food store, home anyways so basically I’d have to see an attractive woman in the Aldi and what, strike up a convo about the basil pesto mac and cheese? “Hey this is weird but I saw you from across the frozen food section and I was wondering if you’re not seeing anyone maybe you’d like to grab some coffee?” Can’t do that, that’s creepy, gotta do the swipe in the appropriate direction on the god-rectangle.
the statistics don’t lie that men have stopped approaching women because it’s not worth the potential headache
Where are these stats about how often men approach women
As someone highly inclined towards the scientific, I am also wearily awaiting said statistics…
being labeled a “creep” has caused most men to just say “fuck it it’s not worth the effort”
No, most men have not said that.
Anon about to learn how to be a power bottom
10 years ago when I started going to the gym I was ugly as fuck. Pimples in my face, fucking 55kg (121 American bullshit), weird face due to fucked up teeth. A buffed dude noticed me in my 2nd week and started to talk to me and asking me to reach his weights for him, spot, etc. He told me that he started skinny AF too and I would grow eventually. I think if it wasn’t for that, I would drop the gym and hate it for the rest of my life.
Thank you wholesome chads
What’s uhhhhh… what’s a wigger?
A slur for white people who “act black.”
👉👈 does that mean i can start giving away w word passes and c word passes 🥹uwu
C word?
Yo wadup my fellow cracker, my topg
Is a black guy acting white (whatever that means) a bracker?
Holy shit I just figured out where Knacker comes from
Cracker? I eat crackers for breakfast
white… y’know
Person that wears wigs???
N word but W
No, a member of the whig political party
No no, it is the person who makes wigs
Correct, we done here.
4chan slang is like zoomer slang, except it’s all racist.
Wigger was around as a term well before 4chan. I remember it from back in the late 90s.
And queerphobic
Can’t fault them though, they’re rude to literally anyone they see.
Pretty fly for a white guy
Stop having negative expectations of people from.memes, most people are reallynchull and helpful.
I agree, though often negative expecations come from expetiences too. If you got bullied in high school, the idea that there are people who want to help you becomes alien.
Being terminally online is not always the root cause of a skewed view of reality. It’s one step away from anxiety alone.
Yeah people ignore that shit people exist and there are people who are worse off because of it.
I wouldn’t even call what I went through bullying it was attempted murder and me having ptsd from it isn’t my fault
Hope it’s improving for you! I went through that level of it too.
What sucks is the gaslighting every time I brought it up. My parents, teachers, and others would act like I started it. Pisses me off looking back to it today.
Everyone had to start somewhere. This applies to the dedicated gym people and they are well aware of the struggles of coming into the gym as a newcomer. Most people in the gym are too focused on their workouts to judge other people. Those who do are actual losers and posers with insecurities
Yeah, in my experience gym goers are pretty helpful and will ask if they can help if they see someone not too familiar with excersises.
When I was for the first time in a gym I had no idea what I was doing and was just randomly going from tool to tool. Someone saw that asked me if I had a traiing plan. Of course I didn’t and he made me a simple one and gave it to me the next time I was there and explained some basics to me and how I should mofify it for what I wanted to achieve.
So many of these would be more wholesome if they didn’t casually drop in slurs.
What’s even slur here lol
Apparently “wigger” means white + n-word. Like for white people who ‘act black’.
(Just repeating others in the thread, I’ve never heard this word before)
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