This is the type of person to say things like “Why can other men pick up females and I can’t?” It’s so over the top I think it’s satire.
Dude met Pip and Lafawnduh irl.
IDK, did they ever think maybe the dude also pays attention to her hobbies as well?
Answer: staying off of 4chan.
Everyone thinks rules 1 and 2 are:
- Be attractive
- Dont be unattractive
But really they are:
- Be a nice person
- Dont be an asshole
also it’s probably more important to not be too unattractive - people are focusing too much on the ceiling but they need to focus on the floor
I think that they just need to look like they didn’t just pick themselves off the floor, realistically.
But do not confuse being a nice person with being a ‘nice guy’.
There’s also a third, unwritten rule.
- Wash your asshole
huh i thought they were:
- be a nice person
- take showers
Attempting to avoid triggering negative feelings (e.g. disgust) in the people around you is part of #1.
That generally requires #2, but might not depending other actions and niche situations.
You don’t need to shower if you never leave home.
Many people share their home with others. They would still shower to the nice.
While a daily shower is overkill, and there are other ways to deal with it, most people need some sort of bathing routine as part of basic skin care: removing accumulated dust, dirt, sebum, sweat, etc. from the skin, particularly joints/folds/crevices.
in any tropical area, daily showers are a requirement. in colder places they might be overkill, but idk
All the blokes I’ve met that are happy in love are just gentle and respectful, especially of consent.
Turns out, and I know this is a shocker, we’re not fucking aliens we just want to be treated as equally valuable and interesting people.
If you were getting it on with aliens, you’d be especially valuable and interesting.
Those prelubed long grey fingers just do it for me mate.
When someone genuinely likes you they will listen to you talk for hours about anything just because they like hearing you be passionate about something.
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First of all he wouldnt call a couple “mixed race” I supposse.
This reminds me of a time I had people over when my roommates, who happened to be 2 very attractive girls, went out and just secomds after they left, a guy said “How come you get to live with 2 extremely hot girls?!” and I was like “Because I don’t say shit like that”. Wanna know the best part? His girlfriend was there.
I dated a woman much taller than me, and received an unnatural amount of glances at my crotch when we were out in public together.
People are so ridiculous.
I’m tall and a woman. It makes me happy and feel kinda powerful that I could cause this situation and maybe even have since I’ve dated shorter guys and am oblivious to social stuff.
It’s extremely rare to see a couple in the wild where the woman is taller though. Life is cruel to short dudes.
She was just shy of 6’3” (189 cm). She didn’t have a ton of options but to date shorter guys.
Haha yeah no kidding. That’s extremely tall for a woman. As a guy I feel tall at 183cm.
I’m ~190cm and sometimes see someone a full head taller than me at work. There’s always a bigger fish…
ok kay but …?
Point being, people always think it’s about the sex, and not like, that the person is interesting, kind, charming, or rich.
But, uh, how’s the pp?
Doing good*. And well.
* The charitable foundation may not help as many as we’d like, but it’s fulfilling work.
Kneeling down and staring at crotch “Thank you for your service.” 🫡
In my experience: He’s emotionally available, interested in her and her experience, actually listening, gentle and honest.
I’m about the fattest, ugliest, loser nerd around and if I can be in a relationship with a succesful, beautiful, adventurous woman, so can anon.
I am sure it isn’t the case. The first part of the last sentence I mean.
Sometimes I hear Kevin Smith talking about himself in front of a crowd, and he immediately describes himself as this fat loser… and I always think bro, you’re doing fine - great even - stop putting yourself down in front of others, it makes everyone feel weird.
Yeah well Kevin did weigh 257 pounds and is a successful director, producer, writer and actor… I’m north of 400 and none of those things. But I got other things going for me, so I’m okay with being a fat ugly loser, I’m winning what’s important to me.
Well I’m probably reading too much into it, but I just think that being publicly revulsed by yourself, even in jest, teaches others how to treat you.
I know that going the other way is the path to narcissism/arrogance, and pointing out your faults keeps you humble and telegraphs that you have no defences because you dont need any… but I think that works only if you assume that people dont take others at face value. Which we all unfortunately do.
Not really sure what I’m advising here, or what the middleground exactly is here, but hopefully you can see where I’m coming from
Meh, I’m like really heavy, dangerously so even, and my many health problems (which don’t help with the physical attractiveness) originate from that. So no, I’m ugly and fat and in many, many regards I’m a loser. But I have other things going for me.
GF wants into this discussion, this is her words:
I wouldn’t call him the fattest, ugliest, looser nerd, but he is definitely fat and doesn’t conform to any classic ideal of male beauty. Instead, he is very gentle, loving and tender and makes me feel like a goddess. He also does what he said he would do: he is interested in me, not just because he has to ask, he actually wants to know what I think and feel. And he is not afraid to tell me his feelings, honest and vulnerable, even if they are actually embarrassing and he may even be ashamed of them. He wants to connect with me emotionally, honest and with his whole heart.
So I guess I’m making up for it with inner beauty and that’s precisely why I commented here:
I had already given up on love, I was a 40 years old, depressed, fat nerd with a career going nowhere. Really not physically attractive at all. I’ve been where so many of these Anons are. But through my significant other and the ones before her, I learned that you really don’t need to be tall, fit and conventionally attractive to find love.
“Just” respect your partner, be open, be honest, be gentle, be caring and be interested, really interested in what she thinks and does and feels.
For me the hardest part was lowering my defenses and being vulnerable with her, telling her even the things that I thought she would find unmanly or disgusting, everything I was and am still ashamed of. And sometimes it’s really hard to actually listen, to not just hear but listen, to not let her voice be drowned out in the multitude of voices from inside and outside your own head and things and media and events happening around you every day. I’ve really had to learn (and am still learning) to come to a calm focus and practice active listening. It’s not easy, but I do it because I love her, and she’s given me the mental stability and something to look forward to that has helped me start not only my weight loss journey, but also continue to work at becoming a better person, better listener and the man I want to be for her.
I’m far from perfect, I still mess things up, my weight loss progresses painfully slow, my mental health still has pretty bad days and I’ve fucked up listening again this week, just like last week. But I’ll be damned if I give up again. And she’s so incredibly supportive and appreciative, that I’m still wondering sometimes what the hell she sees in me and how I deserve someone so wonderful.
Rooting for you, man! Be kind to yourself too, you definitely deserve it!
Damn dude, seems like you’re still winning to me. Just having that support goes a long way, hope you can keep at the weight loss (progress is progress) and have more good mental health days than bad (the more you practice the easier it gets, even if it’s never easy).
It’s hard to say from such a distance, but it may be that he is good at sex and trustworthy. That’s enough a lot of the time. People make things too complicated.
Can confirm. Source: am short white guy, my ex is a truly statuesque black woman. Only way I know it’s not about me is because I don’t bother with Fallout past 2.
Brother, New Vegas is one of the greatest games ever created. There are probably a hundred hours worth of video essays on YouTube about why this game is a masterpiece. There’s a reason it has one of the biggest and still active Nexus Mods page. There’s a reason there’s an active online multiplayer mod of this game that came out in 2009. It’s fucking good.
Maybe he’s out there talking to women instead of hanging out on 4chan smoking weed all day…
Strange how far that gets you.
Touching grass and speaking to other humans in person
Damn, so it’s hopeless then?
Sounds like this guy smokes a lot a grass, does that count?
Real talk: some of us are just lore junkies.
Women actually like vg yo. I would know, i got my wife into them when we met (she hadn’t played games since she was a kid) and now, while i still take the crown in side-scrollin platformers and fighters? she whips my ass in shooters and it’s not actually close.
My wife would casually watch me play games until she saw me playing Rust with the bros. She shyly asked if I could build her a computer.
Brother I had been building, fixing, and overclocking PCs for like 20 years by that point, a few a month even. I slapped one together from spare parts and got her in the game.
She immediately used the fact that she is a girl to work her way into the good graces of other factions and made us friends I couldn’t have imagined. She would change her name and kill sleepers to make our enemies think they had been raided by other enemies. She would make friends with the resident assholes and then map out their base layout for us.
My group has people in it like a top 10k solo no-build Fortnite player, a guy who regularly airdisked people 300m away in Tribes, and two top World of Tanks NA players: we are a force to be reckoned with on any day. She was armed with nothing but kindness and help for good people, and wrath for those who wronged good people.
She fit right in.
When my GF beat me in Soul Caliber, I knew she was the one.
My wife beat me at MarioKart at a party in my apt. And well, that’s where it started lmao.
Bitch didn’t even know how to drift and just snaked that victory out from under me.
