I mean, mom was there too and presumably has at least half of parenting influence on the kids. Why no paragraphs of praise for her, or even a mention beyond the fact that she guided in the trailer (which is only in there so the writer could compliment the dad more on getting it ‘first try’)?
Because of the implicit assumption that yeah, obviously moms are good at parenting–just business as usual–but when a DAD is good at it, strangers take the time to write a whole diatribe about it. Meanwhile mom gets no praise, she’s just doing what she’s supposed to in this guy’s opinion.
Shit is fucked, exhausting, demoralizing, and so pervasive.
EDIT: MRAs alive and thriving here on Lemmy, as always
That would make sense if the mom wasn’t also there parenting, trying to make some good memories with her family. Instead, creepy note guy ignores her entirely, which is very inline with what I’m talking about, unfortunately. Moms will and do get straight ignored while heaps of praise is lavished on dads just for being there with the kids. It’s a pretty common experience, and I would feel pretty annoyed if I were the mom and I found that note before husband did.
I mean, mom was there too and presumably has at least half of parenting influence on the kids. Why no paragraphs of praise for her, or even a mention beyond the fact that she guided in the trailer (which is only in there so the writer could compliment the dad more on getting it ‘first try’)?
Because of the implicit assumption that yeah, obviously moms are good at parenting–just business as usual–but when a DAD is good at it, strangers take the time to write a whole diatribe about it. Meanwhile mom gets no praise, she’s just doing what she’s supposed to in this guy’s opinion.
Shit is fucked, exhausting, demoralizing, and so pervasive.
EDIT: MRAs alive and thriving here on Lemmy, as always
I think it was more that a dad wanted to compliment another dad, as someone who might relate to him easier.
It even says that in the note.
That would make sense if the mom wasn’t also there parenting, trying to make some good memories with her family. Instead, creepy note guy ignores her entirely, which is very inline with what I’m talking about, unfortunately. Moms will and do get straight ignored while heaps of praise is lavished on dads just for being there with the kids. It’s a pretty common experience, and I would feel pretty annoyed if I were the mom and I found that note before husband did.