I have a few.
One is abbreviation hell. Nobody is going to spend the time trying to decipher what you mean when you use over several abbreviations. It is just better if you’d explain than expecting people to understand aside from commonly used abbreviations that are easy to understand.
Another is overstepping your limits for the sake of getting a partner. Compromising your own standards is perhaps one of the worst things you can do when it comes to trying to find dates. Like you’re suddenly okay with dating single parents but you don’t like children. You’re suddenly okay with dating religious people but you’re not religious. Things like that. Because it means you’re desperate and you’re setting yourself up and setting them up for a bad date.
Trying to be too serious too quick. You’ve gotta let the dopamine rush of the possibilities wear off before truly knowing if the person is a good fit.
Ooh, new relationship energy can be intoxicating. Then once it wears off the other person loses their gloss and you realize they don’t like dogs and chew too loudly.
For most people, yes. But me and my girlfriend talked kids, marriage and so on on our first date irl.
You can and should talk about those things early on. But there’s a difference between…
(which is about ensuring an alignment of values)
And…
(which is trying to get too serious too quickly)