• Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
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        3 months ago

        I know I grumble, everyone I know does

        but we aren’t doing it for sympathy and none of us say poor me

        it’s a coping mechanism to grumble

        whereas a martyr is manipulating

        Is that right?

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          3 months ago

          Kind of.

          BIL is in hospital so the focus and sympathies are with him. She doesn’t want to miss out on anything so she becomes the Martyr. Look at me/us. Now feel sorry for me because my son is sick.

          I think it’s more out of boredom (even though martyrs are ALWAYS busy). The manipulation is just a bonus.

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            3 months ago

            so it’s opportunistic? It’s how she handles situations she is presented with.

            I think I’m starting to better understand how narcissistic think and behave