• Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
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    3 months ago

    I know I grumble, everyone I know does

    but we aren’t doing it for sympathy and none of us say poor me

    it’s a coping mechanism to grumble

    whereas a martyr is manipulating

    Is that right?

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      3 months ago

      Kind of.

      BIL is in hospital so the focus and sympathies are with him. She doesn’t want to miss out on anything so she becomes the Martyr. Look at me/us. Now feel sorry for me because my son is sick.

      I think it’s more out of boredom (even though martyrs are ALWAYS busy). The manipulation is just a bonus.

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        3 months ago

        so it’s opportunistic? It’s how she handles situations she is presented with.

        I think I’m starting to better understand how narcissistic think and behave