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      1 year ago

      I like to compare calling to someone knocking on your door incessantly for several seconds.

      You can ignore it or decline to answer. It’s still annoying af.

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      So why call in the first place? And how will I ever know what the call was about? Unless you text, of course, so why not just do that in the first place?

      You may not intent for it to be a demand, but unless you have your phone on silent, it will keep ringing and making noise until you do something about it. It demands an action, and tries to get your attention as much as possible.

      Which is why it’s designated to emergencies. This makes calling more useful as well, because now you know calls are more important, and can actually treat them with more urgency. Otherwise you’re just gonna end up ignoring what may be an actual emergency, because you treat every phone call the same.

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        Gen X here, only had a smartphone 5 years as before I was avoiding it. Typing is painful. Just answer the phone and we’ll get that query sorted in less time than I would take to type the initial question. Don’t be a big baby about it.

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          Millennial here and totally agree. There are times I don’t feel like talking and I simply don’t answer. How hard is it to answer normally though? If it’s not during work hours… If I’m busy I just call back. No idea why this is a weird awkward thing for so many

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          Did you know, as with most things, typing on a phone is a skill that improves with use. Get with the times, don’t be a big baby about it

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            Did you know that brain plasticity decreases with age? It means learning new skills becomes progressively harder and harder and harder.

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              You specifically chose not to use smart phones until 5 years ago by your own admission, and are actively refusing to attempt to learn the new skill, get out of here with your brain plasticity argument. You’re doing this to yourself and ridiculing others

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                Like avoiding mobile phones for as long as I could was doing something to myself rather than doing something for myself. Also, I ain’t getting out of here with my brain plasticity argument because if I am going to be mindful of PTSD and autism and all the other conditions that I am going to be mindful of then people can be mindful of my ageing brain and more recently the very real brain fog that can be the result of Covid (my memory has gone to shit since I had it.)

                As I have said elsewhere if there’s a genuinely good reason for not phoning then I won’t but the one condition I’m not respecting is a chronic fear that one day they might do something that is convenient to someone else.

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          If it was not important enough to type it out, you can tell me next time we meet. I’ll stop answering your call after the second nonsense call you make.

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          I hate typing too but having to answer a phone call triggers PTSD. NOPE.

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            If it’s genuine PTSD then you have my every sympathy and I hope that you can get some peace from it.

            Nobody I’m calling have anything worse than lazyitis.

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            r/conservative might be a safe space where you feel more comfortable. Where feelings don’t matter and racism is acceptable, as long as it’s not anti-white. Seems you’re tRiGgErED bY wOkEnEsS

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            I could but I honestly don’t want to, it would take time and be a long post. If you really are in therapy you can talk with your therapist about the issue. But so I won’t let you go empty handed the simplest point: it’s a phone, it’s there to primarily make calls. Yes, in the last decade it finally got access to the internet; something I wished for for at least 20 years, but nevertheless, it’s a phone. It exists to make phone calls. If that’s really a big problem for you it’s not the phones problem, it’s not the caller’s problem, it’s your problem.

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      When you decline a call you don’t know what it’s about. The only thing I can think of when I family member calls and I decline a call is that they needed desperate help/were in an emergency and I just hung up on them.

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      Except the problem is I don’t know what the call is about so you’re asking me to make a except/declined decision with no information.

      If you send a text message I have the information.

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            I have received many scary cryptic texts which the phone calls version would’ve involved, at worst, 5 seconds of confusion. With the cryptic texts I often have to wait hours to understand. The problem with texting is that people use it even when it’s wildly inappropriate to and they don’t seem to understand that.

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                I feel like it’s sort of simple minded to make rules for oneself like people in this thread seem to have done. Context is key.

                Am I excited to answer a call from my landlord? Absolutely not, but I’d rather do that and talk for 5 minutes than text for a couple hours about when the repairman is coming or whatever. Calls can be much more convenient than these people with their rules seem to know…

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                    Because texting is a particularly shitty way to communicate with people who aren’t good at it. Which is 99% of the world. Why be intentionally obtuse? If you’ve ever texted more than 3 people you absolutely know what I’m talking about.