I just noticed I haven’t visited Lemmygrad in a month, cause I was afraid of opening the site. Same reason I ignore important emails, don’t respond to friends and sometimes “ghost” people. If someone calls me on the phone, I answer, if someone wants to hang out I go and hang out, but it is so easy to shut out the digital world. Kind of unfortunate everything is moving to the digital realm… or is it by design? Is it a feature of the digital system that those of us with anxiety won’t be able to participate fully? People ask me if I have instagram, nope. I don’t post about my life on social media, yet that is what is expected to be a participating member of today’s society.

  • Soviet Pigeon@lemmygrad.ml
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    3 months ago

    Is it a feature of the digital system that those of us with anxiety won’t be able to participate fully?

    Tbh It is more an issue for me to participate analog than digital. Social interaction through audio and video is a burden for me and it of course applies for RL interactions.

    I don’t post about my life on social media, yet that is what is expected to be a participating member of today’s society.

    If the communication totally switches to the internet, even if peers are available locally, than it is indeed nothing good. Keeping digital footprint is important. But it is not expected to be a participating member of today’s society everywhere. It depends on age, country and so on. Peers in my age may have Instagram or whatever but it is not that common. I don’t have Instagram and tbh I still don’t get why I should use it.

    Same reason I ignore important emails

    This is of course not good. To answer them is often needed for work or for official government stuff. Since AI exists, I am creating my responds with the help of it and then correct few things. It takes to much energy otherwise.

    • multitotal@lemmygrad.mlOP
      3·
      3 months ago

      Since AI exists, I am creating my responds with the help of it and then correct few things.

      I never considered that as an option… That’s a great idea actually.

      • Soviet Pigeon@lemmygrad.ml
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        3 months ago

        I made great experience with DeepL. They offer not only translation but also the option to rewrite your text. Here is example:

        hi, I don’t know if I can make it to the appointment. I hope you are well.

        This has been transformed to:

        Hi there! I’m really sorry but I’m not sure if I can make it to the appointment. I hope you are well and I look forward to seeing you soon!

        Sometimes also ChatGPT may be a help to. I once forgot to greet my father when he had birthday. I told GPT what I want and how the stile should be. I had a positive respond from him. Try it out, it might help you!

        • multitotal@lemmygrad.mlOP
          3·
          3 months ago

          I was thinking of paying for Claude. It’s $20/mo. but I see it as having a personal assistant/teacher that knows everything and is available 24/7. Maybe I could even run a local LLM and feed it my emails and written documents so it can sound like me too.

  • big_spoon@lemmygrad.ml
    4·
    3 months ago

    i mean, as a anxious person, i had to search for psychiatric medication for the physical feelings of the anxiety, once you can overcome that, is easier focus in your other issues…just saying

    • multitotal@lemmygrad.mlOP
      3·
      3 months ago

      My ADHD medication helps, but I don’t like taking it every day/all the time. Maybe I should look into something for just anxiety.

  • WhatWouldKarlDo@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
    2·
    3 months ago

    I also suffer from anxiety, and I do a lot of the same behaviours as you, including a minimal digital footprint. I have nothing useful to offer you though, aside from some comradeship. I know well how insidious anxiety is, and I do my best to avoid it creeping into my head. This means a limit on digital interactions.

    I guess the difference though that I’m old enough that having my life be online is not an expectation (although I have been questioned about it in the past, it’s not uncommon for my age or field of work). So I doubt I have the digital pressure that you do. That has to suck. I’m sorry.

    • multitotal@lemmygrad.mlOP
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      3 months ago

      I doubt I have the digital pressure that you do.

      It’s not so much pressure as feeling that that’s the only way to interact nowadays. I’ve been asked a bunch of times if I have instagram (cause facebook is pasé now, yet they are both owned by the same company lol). I regret getting a fb account, so I don’t think I’ll be getting an instagram account, not falling for that again.

      Before social media we used to just meet outside and hang out, now people do things so they can craft a social media image of themselves. It’s all planned outings with start and end times, Facebook events. I just feel like I’m not participating in society if I’m not commenting on someone’s post. People don’t call one another to talk about things, it’s all fb/instagram posts for the world.

      • WhatWouldKarlDo@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
        2·
        3 months ago

        I usually coordinate with my friends through SMS (or WhatsApp for my European friends). I had a Facebook account for some family members who are like that, but when I changed my name, I just kind of abandoned it. I’ve never had an Instagram account, and I only ever signed up for Twitter in order to enter a couple of contests. I never actually used it, and I’m not sure I even remember the password. I do have some presence on Discord, which I find distasteful, but not nearly so much as Facebook or Instagram. But again, it’s primarily to keep in contact with people I know who are part of that culture. I don’t really use it otherwise.

        • multitotal@lemmygrad.mlOP
          2·
          3 months ago

          I have WhatsApp to talk to family and a few friends. I never liked discord so I’m not there either. I tried making a twitter account some 5-6 years ago but it asked for a phone number so that was an immediate nope from me.