• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    But also partly because the users suck at using them. People are like “I want interesting conversation” but reply with nothing but “lol”.

    A lot of profiles on these sites are entirely fake or bot-operated, to boost the impression that you’re getting matches. Some profiles are run by data miners who swipe match on everyone just to get the additional data that comes with a match. Others are run by businesses that are using the profiles for promotion.

    Slapping “I want interesting conversation” in the profile is a great way to bait engagement, but more often than not there’s no dating prospect on the other side of the profile. This isn’t a string of incredibly vapid women you’re running into, its dummy accounts and scams.

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      5 months ago

      Somehow I hadn’t even considered fake profiles. I don’t know if that makes me feel better or worse about the situation.

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        5 months ago

        My coworker told me that even restaurants will post “profiles”, get matches and set up first dates at their establishments. The person will obviously get stood up, but they are more likely to spend money in the establishment since they’re already there. Like maybe a drink or 2.

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        5 months ago

        Better about your future potential dating pool but worse about the tech industry is where I went with it.

        There’s a cute little audiobook I listened to recently, called “The Verifiers” which was written by a person who worked professionally in the dating app industry and turned her experience into a thriller novel. Definitely made me feel better about getting the run around, since this is apparently the professional standard and not just me being uniquely stupid.