People tend to express care in the ways that they would like to receive it.
Do you notice your friend giving gifts to other people? Maybe instead, she does small acts of kindness, or maybe she compliments people freely? Sometimes it’s as simple as quality time.
When someone is going through a tough time, they might feel very alone. Offering to listen without trying to solve the problem (trust me, they’ve already thought of all the options) is such a generous act.
I kinda rambled… hopefully that makes sense and good luck. You’re a good friend.
I know what you mean. She wouldn’t like most gifts because she seems to not want to be the center of attention or feel like someone needs to give her special treatment.
I don’t notice her really doing any of those things you mention, to be honest. She just generally acts like a super kind person. When it was my birthday she bought me a slice of cake which was nice though and gave me a little note.
In order to avoid making anyone feel uncomfortable or singled out, I used to bring in donuts when I noticed that one of my coworkers was having a rough go. That way they were for everyone and no one would feel like I’m singling them out.
But since the one in the OP has diabetes, I can’t do that anymore and there’s not a good substitute for something like that. I’ve been at a loss ever since.
When it was my birthday she bought me a slice of cake which was nice though and gave me a little note.
Sounds like a small gift + a card/note might be a good idea then.
I would suggest something simple like a coffee card, but if you want to be mindful of caffeine intake for pregnant women then maybe an alternative like a box of caffeine-free tea that’s soothing and calming? Or perhaps aromatherapy in the same vein if she’s not allergic to scents?
Moms with small children are stressful enough on a good day let alone going through rough times, something soothing can hopefully make her day more endurable.
Plus a get well card(or something appropriate for the event) with a short hand-written note can go a long way.
People tend to express care in the ways that they would like to receive it.
Do you notice your friend giving gifts to other people? Maybe instead, she does small acts of kindness, or maybe she compliments people freely? Sometimes it’s as simple as quality time.
When someone is going through a tough time, they might feel very alone. Offering to listen without trying to solve the problem (trust me, they’ve already thought of all the options) is such a generous act.
I kinda rambled… hopefully that makes sense and good luck. You’re a good friend.
I know what you mean. She wouldn’t like most gifts because she seems to not want to be the center of attention or feel like someone needs to give her special treatment.
I don’t notice her really doing any of those things you mention, to be honest. She just generally acts like a super kind person. When it was my birthday she bought me a slice of cake which was nice though and gave me a little note.
In order to avoid making anyone feel uncomfortable or singled out, I used to bring in donuts when I noticed that one of my coworkers was having a rough go. That way they were for everyone and no one would feel like I’m singling them out.
But since the one in the OP has diabetes, I can’t do that anymore and there’s not a good substitute for something like that. I’ve been at a loss ever since.
Sounds like a small gift + a card/note might be a good idea then.
I would suggest something simple like a coffee card, but if you want to be mindful of caffeine intake for pregnant women then maybe an alternative like a box of caffeine-free tea that’s soothing and calming? Or perhaps aromatherapy in the same vein if she’s not allergic to scents?
Moms with small children are stressful enough on a good day let alone going through rough times, something soothing can hopefully make her day more endurable.
Plus a get well card(or something appropriate for the event) with a short hand-written note can go a long way.
You both sound like wonderful people.