The Telegraph is the only one reporting this, we’re supposed to believe a sensationalist conservative tabloid?

Ok, I would recommend texting lines and other online services instead of a counselor. I also think finding productive forums for this could help you out (places with actual support, not places that will make you feel worse).

Don’t ever assure someone in a bad position that it’ll get better.

I didn’t though. I said “life changes for the better for people all the time,” even people in extreme lifelong conditions like yours. I didn’t assure you anything will get better. I just meant it’s possible and attainable if you work towards it. That might be hard in your current state, but I don’t think it’s impossible. There’s a ton of good people out there. I’d hug you right now if I could.

I’m sorry to hear that. You deserve as much as anyone, you’re not unlovable. I wish I could help you, but I’m not too good at this, or knowing what to say.

I’ve been suicidal before, and while I haven’t experienced anything like that, I can assure you that life changes for the better for people all the time, even if it doesn’t seem like it will. You’re not stuck. There’s a lot of coldness in this world, but there’s also people you can meet if you put yourself out there. The other comment you got was sort of toxic, but they’re right in that if you put effort in it doesn’t have to be like that.

I’d also recommend looking for community resources, local counselors, and maybe using a texting crisis line, like this. Idk about lemmy but there’s also probably a lot of productive mental health forums you can find all over the internet, for people with similar experiences that might be able to help you out better.

I’m a zoomer and my middle & high school had us do a large majority of stuff on a computer, so my handwriting kinda sucks now

whenever I use pen & paper now, I look at what I wrote and realize I still have the handwriting of a fucking 12 y/o. I also type a lot faster than I write

The far left eating its own

Dude, blajah is as liberal as most instances here. Their top community literally has a banner that says “fuck tankies.” There was a lot of drama between our instances and hostility from the blajah mods/admins (leaking private pms to make fun of, an ableist slur from a mod, saying they’ll ban users over “tankie behavior” or “anything iffy from hexbear users,” etc).

The only way we might’ve seen them as our allies was that we’re both largely queer communities. We never agreed on politics, but were willing to put that aside until all the hostility.

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Yea a lot of things are political that normies don’t consider to be, “non political” in the liberal sense of the term I guess, especially if they’re just trying to avoid communist posting

If you wanna get away that bad https://lemmy.world is a pretty big instance that defederated from us

almost completely non-political: c/food, c/diy, c/gardening, c/tabletop, c/hobby, c/fashion, c/travel, c/mycology, c/gamedev, c/ttrpg, c/libre

90% non-political: c/music, c/movies, c/anime, c/earth, c/neurodiverse, c/cars, c/paganism, c/judaism, c/writing

usually non-political: c/games, c/fitness, c/art, c/science, c/philosophy, c/worldbuilding, c/languagelearning, c/vegan, c/poverty_finance

generally half or more non-political: c/technology, c/chat, c/urbanism, c/agriculture, c/maritime, c/finance, c/christianity, c/ama, c/creepy, c/islam

Yeah I feel like it’s mostly a cultural thing. In the past, women were discouraged (and at a certain point not allowed) from playing chess, so it’s always been a male dominated hobby

In general, women tend to be reluctant to get into male dominated interests and occupations when there isn’t a welcoming, large enough space for them (e.g. depending on gender roles and expectations, some countries have mostly male doctors, some have an equal amount of male/female doctors, and some have mostly female doctors). So there isn’t exactly a large enough pool of women who care enough to really get into chess and make achievements in it. it’s also just, kind of a boring hobby to get into imo

Ah yes, we should liberate women by restricting their freedom to wear what they want to wear the western white knight is here to let Muslim women know they don’t know what they’re doing because they’re small-minded and brainwashed

Also, weird how you bring up burqas under an article that doesn’t mention burqas. And you make it sound like only far-leftists are against a burqa ban when most liberals/moderates tend to be too.

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Ok I didn’t see that thread because I tend to look over some posts. I still think drawing attention to a post isn’t fully the same when we’re all one giant community of communities. I feel like you’re being a little over reactive to some terminally online people being argumentative and annoying you a bit. Maybe it is sort of a brigade tho.

you’re turning on your peers, whilst patting yourself on the back for being inclusive

Respectfully I feel like you’re doing this right now, wanting to separate from other trans folks just because the vocality of their beliefs is annoying you and a few of the people in this thread were rude. Unfortunately stuff like this is gonna happen if someone makes a post specifically about us, but in no other cases have we gone around dominating blahaj posts. I also don’t see how we’re “disrupting a safe and inclusive space” by giving our takes.

I’m sorry but I don’t understand how commenting under a post from an instance we’re federated with is considered brigading. It’s not like we’re posting about/linking to a separate space to infiltrate. Our communities are under the same umbrella, so this just shows up in our feed.

Are people from hexbear jumping into a discussion that should maybe primarily be reserved for blahaj? Maybe, but I think people just want to offer our side of things, and we honestly just don’t want the two biggest queer spaces in the fediverse breaking up because we’re often edgy and argumentative/passionate about leftist beliefs.

I also don’t think we’re derailing from anything or preventing you from having a defederation conservation among yourselves just because we leave replies.