This is exactly why I came to Lemmy one. After browsing around and seeing the bigger instances getting absolutely wrecked by refugees, I found Lemmy one, saw it had next to no communities but a reasonable user count, not tiny but not huge. Realized that would probably be the sweet spot for myself, and would support the idea of load balancing the Lemmy instances, instead of everyone flocking to Lemmy ml and beehaw.

Glad to be here, seems like a reasonable instance with an admin who has their head on straight