Weevil Friend

That’s a great idea! I’m glad that’s working for you :)

Are there specific people you find end up being the recipients of your frustration? I did a lot of lashing out on undeserved people and I can talk about that if that’s helpful!

Can I ask what the triggers are? I’ve always struggled with this but about two years ago I had a big stroke that made things a lot worse. I’ve been taking a systematic kind of approach to making a system to counteract triggers that I might encounter. Maybe if I know the things that are getting to you or causing the emotions you’re struggling with I can help! DMs are also open

That’s a good way of putting it! I normally act without regard for perceptions of masculinity or femininity and I feel like that’s appealing for couples looking for a third.

For me it’s happened twice overtly and I suspect once that didn’t become an explicit request. I’m vocally monogamous, I’m not very social, and I’m still kinda young so I feel like those numbers are pretty high. For me I feel like it’s how I present myself and act, which is pretty stereotypically “queer.” Once that gets picked up on by other couples I think they seem more interested.

To be completely honest I sought out a Lemmy frontend specifically because I wanted to tag you lol

No it’s just a lot of blood relatives in there it seems

Not legal children, I meant children of other members of the community. Not overt pedophilia, just weird bordering incest that I understand people being averse to.

https://lemmy.world/post/14925178

They say they aren’t letting blood relatives have sex but I would still feel odd belonging to a relationship with my dad and sister where everyone is having sex with all of us.

I feel like downvotes kinda make sense given that they said group has a lot of parents/children and siblings. I don’t even know if this is bait or not.

I’m not sure about the founding fathers, but isn’t that exactly why the pilgrims came to North America?

It’s one of those things that doesn’t hurt anyone. If you’re not completely sure they’re into it, follow them whenever they leave. A lot of times they try to pick up pace but that’s cuz they’re excited to lead you home so make sure you speed up too! (Genuinely terrified of anyone taking this seriously so just a little disclaimer)

I got mine off of redbubble. I couldn’t find the original artist at the time, so it was probably stolen art to be completely honest. Maybe you could reverse image search and find it? That was something I didn’t know how to do at the time.

As for finding a partner who appreciates it, I think the best thing to do is go up to anyone of your preferred gender or presentation and say seductive phrases such as “let’s see that smile” or “where’s my hug?”

I feel morally obligated to say that I have a t-shirt with this on it and it scored me my boyfriend of over five years that I fully intend to spend the rest of my life with

Old Friends by Simon and Garfunkel?

Thank you!! I haven’t noticed any weevil communities yet but I’m in as many bug groups as I can find lol

I normally find turtle chips in international markets where I live! (Mid-Atlantic United States)

Yeah I’m not usually one to be like “oh civility is of utmost importance” and I recognize how necessary unpleasantness and sometimes outright force is necessary to enact serious change. At the same time I really respect people who recognize situations where everyone involved can gain from a mutual discussion. Thank you again for helping me out! It genuinely makes me want to talk more on this site haha

Thank you so much for that response! It really layed out what I was curious about in an accessible way. Also just wanna say you’re super active on here so I see you a lot, and I’m always interested in your takes. I definitely don’t agree with you on some things but I respect your viewpoints a ton because of how you back them up with good faith arguments. I don’t need to hear more about small communities because I feel like you’ve outlined the things I was curious about and my general focus is more on how we can address larger societal issues, which I feel is best accessed through larger communities. But I definitely wouldn’t turn down anything you have to say about small communities if you wanna get your thoughts out there!

I’m not super well read on this kind of thing but the idea interests me a lot! Can I ask you to explain the concerning effects of small, insular communities and gift economies? I’m not even certain what a gift economy is to be honest!