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Cake day: September 19th, 2023

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  • I feel like this is just another division tactic to split the vote to favor Republicans.

    I have friends who were rabidly for Democrats and their agenda for decades, decrying single issue conservative voters, now acting the same way toward Biden over Gaza as if he single handedly orchestrated this and didn’t inherit years of foreign policy.

    I fucking hate what’s happening there and don’t want to support it in any way, but my vote doesn’t change what’s already established and the alternative is so much worse.

    I keep asking for a viable alternative and all I get is vote third party or stay home which solves exactly nothing.




  • I cant say for certain, but I do know that it’s likely card number algorithms can be compromised in one way or another. I had a credit and debit compromised one day after another, the credit card having never been used at all. I had them both cancelled and reissued immediately, and after activating the new credit card it was done again the very next day. These were from the same bank, a small credit union based in Eastern Washington.

    Again, it was cancelled, they told me it was an algorithmic attack, and the next card that arrived was activated and had no further issues despite use in person and online until it expired.

    Maybe they were saving face after a breach, but that kind of attack felt far more likely given my lack of usage.



  • Thank you, I really appreciate it. There’s a LOT left out of the abusive conditions I lived in leading up to that, I was forced to sleep on the floor for a couple of years, forced to physically abuse myself for her amusement once I was well and truly broken. She used my kid as a pawn to manipulate and control me and it worked. She used my size to intimidate other people to get what she wanted. Burned down our home.

    Cut me off from all of my friends and family.

    I’m doing a LOT better these days, it’s been a few years now. Through therapy and giving myself space I uncovered memories of being sexually abused by a priest in my youth, which surely didn’t help, and the legal ramifications of that are still turning as we speak.

    I’m still a broken human, but I’m a much better version of myself than I was a few years ago. I struggle, and fight the constant feeling that I should cease to exist, but as long as my kid needs me I have a thread holding me down.

    I have the most amazing partner now, who has shown me what it is really like to be loved beyond being a parent. Something I never experienced until the last couple of years.

    I’m writing a letter to my kid, that I will give her when they are much much older, outlining what those years were like. I know they can see the evil in their mom, but can’t name it yet. I haven’t said a word about it to them, and have no plans to until much much later or until they start to ask me about based on their observations.

    I had intended to just say thank you, but … it feels good to let it out. Very very few people who know me have heard that much of the story. Thank you for hearing me. I truly appreciate it.


  • I don’t want to downplay the racism that is absolutely rampant in situations like these, they treated me, a very white guy in the same way. My now ex-wife and young child disappeared while I was in meetings. I came out of my home office, tried for a while to contact her, and after getting no reply called the police. Neither vehicle was gone, no notes, no indications of where they went.

    They searched my house, my vehicles, even threatened to break into the camper we had to search it when I couldn’t immediately find the key.

    It took them hours to locate them, and after wouldn’t tell me anything other than they were found.

    Turns out she had taken my kid to her family’s cult compound, I immediately started court proceedings, then COVID helpfully came along to drag that out for years. I now have 50/50 custody, moved us all far away from that cult so she is less likely to take her back there, paid out the nose to get my ex to agree.

    I did put my dog in the bathroom before they arrived, cause I know how that goes…




  • Thank you for such a detailed writeup of your experience. I have twin 32 curved LCDs and one frame is starting to crack so I’ve been mulling over my options.

    I’m in terminals all day long for work, videos and games when I have some downtime. It sounds like an OLED TV is going to be the ticket for me. I’ve been hesitant because the perceived loss of real estate losing a whole display, but that’s clearly more mindset and habit than reality.

    Sharing is a concern, I do a lot with coworkers and customers, but I’m sure I can find a way around that. Even if it’s something silly like a VM that I run shares out of. Just sharing single windows won’t do the trick as I’m often sharing a web UI alongside terminals and notes.