I had a neglectful single mother and it has resulted in 1) me being independent to a fault and 2) me not being comfortable interacting in family settings (friends’ and significant others’ families).
My father’s a narcissist and my family waves it away. I’m fine with LC, he’s not, so I guess sooner or later it’ll turn into NC. It’s frustrating. He wants a relationship and says he’s willing to try, but he’s incapable of accepting any reality where he’s done something wrong or hurt someone. I’ve spent years trying to think of the magic words that would fix things but there’s no way around it.
As a person it’s made me more conscious of people’s limits. There’s a will on both sides for us, but we’re each limited in our own ways. I can’t be as tolerant as the rest of my family and he won’t be able to make progress without therapy that he doesn’t even realize he needs.
I find the fact that both of my parents are dead to be a huge barrier to a healthy relationship. At this point we really have stopped communicating. /s (not really though, it is just a fact.)
I wonder if Graveyard Counselling is a thing—it has to be?!
Edit: i feel sometimes (not sadly but not exactly gleefully either) this is the only thing that could ever work with my own. She’s too broken for now and I gotta fix me
Edit: this idea has legs…what if neither of you have to be dead either 🤔 What if the simulation/dress rehearsel is sufficient for some cases? Like this is it, if we can’t budge this will be the next time we attend to one another
Yeah they call themselves psychics.
I have emphatically not included them and I will clarify this has nothing to do with parapsychology bullshit. This is all very real and grounded in physical relaity and recognition of the poignancy of time’s finiteness and the limits of dysfunction tolerated by self-respecting people