• RealFknNito@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Or just find a girl more into video games and hanging out than soup kitchen volunteering. Every girl isn’t a perfect fit yknow.

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      Or just like, don’t focus in on one girl. Especially if she already said she’s not interested. Try lots things. Meet lots of different people. Get a real feel for what you want, what actually works, and stick with that.

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        1 year ago

        Exactly. Chances are you’ll find a better fit of a partner if you go do the things you like. Anime convention? Weeb gf. Oddities store/events? Goth gf. This stuff is easy people.

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      Don’t you know how many terminally online incels there are compared to gamer girls that are into those types?

      Most girls you can kind of get into gaming if they aren’t already, by finding the games they enjoy.

      But if gaming is the only interest you have, the conversations will quickly come to an end.

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        My first date with my wife involved her explaining the plot of kingdom hearts to me over 2 hours and 3 bottles of wine.

        I appreciate I’m very fortunate, but it does happen, and I would say gaming was basically both of our only interests at the time (besides weed for me, and doctoring for her, but we don’t exactly overlap with those things!).

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      But then you’re competing with far more people for that girls interests than you would with random normie girl.

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        Random normie girl is looking for partners interested in the same stuff she is. By chasing one you have nothing in common with, not only are you competing with all of the guys who share her interests and hobbies, but you’re putting yourself at a huge disadvantage by actually not sharing her interests and hobbies.

        The competition pool is the same. What changes is whether or not she might find you interesting in the first place.

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          That’s only true if you assume that both sets of interests have similar gender ratios. It’s no secret nerdy hobbies are heavily male dominated, so you will be competing with far more people.