Every time somebody sends me a thumb I take it as “whatever you say you fucking dumbass” and it pisses me off.

And ya, I’m aware that that the replies are going to be thumbs, let’s see em ya jerks!!!

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    This is literally my “message received” emote.

    If people thought it was rude, I’d be fired by now.

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    No. Your reading of it is unusual, in most contexts. It almost always means “agreement, and I have nothing of substance to add”.

    It can be rude if the thing you’ve said should warrant a substantial response. Like if you wrote “my brother just died in a car wreck”, a thumbs up (or probably any emoji) would be an inappropriate response. Heavier stuff warrants whole words.

    But if it’s like “Can you get cat food at the store? The kind we always get” then a thumbs up is an acceptable shorthand for "yes, I understand and commit to this request "

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    Nope, because I use it myself. But I don’t use it as a conversational tool though. I just use it as confirmation that I received and read what you sent but it isn’t necessary to continue the conversation. For example, I’m already in a conversation with someone and the assumption is I need them to send me a file. When they finally send it over, I just react with a thumbs up to confirm I got it. Context is important. The emoji is only as meaningful as the context of the conversation it is in.

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    I use the 👍react to show that I’ve seen the message but don’t need to respond. Usually in the case of someone sending a money transfer or something like that.

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    It’s a pretty simple “acknowledged” to me. It’s a “I’ve not just seen your message, I’ve read it, and I have no further comments”.

    I don’t think I’ve ever interpreted it as rude.

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    Depends on who’s saying it and to what, and in what manner (message reaction, its own separate text).

    “Hey who wants pizza tonight?” in the group text.

    Bunch of👍reactions mixed in with some 🍕 and 🕺

    That’s normal and people agreeing with you.

    “Hey could you pick up some toilet paper on the way home?”

    👍 reaction.

    That’s a neutral kind of acknowledgement.

    “Hey man, that was pretty fucked what you said back at the party. I think the others want to talk to you about it.”

    “👍”

    That’s rude and dismissive, and not just an acknowledgement text.

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      First of all - I’m shocked that anyone would use a thumb up like in your last example. That’s obviously extremely rude and disrespectful.

      Second of all - I’m shocked that some people can’t see the difference of the usage of the thumb up and believe that it’s always rude, regardless of context.

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        It’s a little bit of a generational/cultural gap, I think! Like how Ok. and Ok... are fully normal to boomers, but anyone millennial and younger are going to read that as being short, or as an ominous trailing off compared to the neutral, no-caps-no-punctuation kk or ok.

        I think children up through the younger end of millennials are just more likely to give neutral-to-lightly-positive acknowledgement in other ways, like 🫡or ✅ or 🥰 or 💯. 👍 is reserved by some for lower enthusiasm or even a restrained, mild annoyance.

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      Exactly. Everyone at work uses it to cut the chain of “Looks good”, “Thanks”, “No problem”, etc short. If you’re interpreting an emoji as an attack you might have anger issues.

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    If I react to a message with a 👍 it’s innocuous, but if I reply to a message 👍 it’s actually me being passive aggressive like I can’t be bothered to type a real response

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      Yes! I just responded with something similar lol that’s exactly how I use it and how I would take it

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    in response to plans?

    chill.

    in response to something like a political opinion?

    highly sarcastic.

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    Depending on the context, it is can be used sarcastically, which may be rude. But I’ve used this even in semi-formal settings.

    I have to ask, are people these days that easily offended?

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      Yes lmao, where you been? People want to be offended now to the degree where they look for things that aren’t really offensive but they can use it for sympathy likes.

      Maybe I just have tuned my ability to notice it from years of “nothing is ever good enough” parents, teachers, and employers, but it’s literally the same mechanism that made my mom say “well a B is good but you need to be getting As. (And later) Well that low A is good but you need to get it higher.” Or my boss just always saying “faster faster” no matter how much “faster faster” you go, so I now just say “you got it boss” and continue at my pace instead of breaking my back just to hear “faster faster” again in response like he’s some kind of weird Gull that gained the ability to mimic human speech it can’t comprehend. It all comes from the same place, plus a dash of clickbait.

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        For a long time when I worked in restaurants and the boss would start blasting us with “faster!!!” we just all go “working hard, working hard” with no added enthusiasm or energy.

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    Nah, and to be honest it threw me off to hear some people interpet it that way. It’s always meant “acknowledged” or “I agree, no notes” to me.

    If I wanted to be rude I’d do this instead: 👍🙄