So like…I’m not repulsive. People actually really like talking to me. I don’t make people upset and no one ever dislikes me. But…no one ever wants to hang out with me or talk to me without me intiating or already being in the same place.

It’s not like I’m boring either. I have interests and hobbies and a personality of a sort, but it feels like no matter what I do I’m always having to insert myself into groups and such, and no one ever thinks “hey, i should invite him to do x.”

I know you can’t give exact answes without knowing me personally, so if anyone has general experience with feeling like this any general advice is appreciated

  • cfgaussian@lemmygrad.ml
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    8 days ago

    In general as an adult to meet people outside work my advice is to do an activity alone. A hobby, volunteer thing, whatever. Keep doing it over and over, and there will be a few people who you see a lot, and become friendly with.

    I could not agree more. From my experience this is by far the most successful approach. Put yourself out there and do things you enjoy (around other people) and over time you will naturally develop relationships to other people.