• JimmyBigSausage@lemm.ee
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    3 months ago

    Why does it matter so much to women? Noone is being crowned nor is it a beauty pageant. Half of marriges end in divorce. It causes stress to guests and participants. Why not just go to a judge?

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      3 months ago

      Different people like different things. Nothing wrong with celebrating one of the biggest days of one’s life. I didn’t want to be the center of attention, but if someone else does want to be that - on their wedding day - then that’s cool too.

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      3 months ago

      Half of all marriages, which include people who have been married multiple times. For example, if you have 5 married couples, 4 are on their first marriage and the last couple is on their 6th marriage, then on average 50% of the marriages in this scenario failed. But it doesn’t apply to everyone in the same way. Some people even remarry the same person.

      The median is much lower.

    • erin (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 months ago

      You’ve figured us out. Women™, the monolith. You alone have realized that we all have the same opinions, and we all require large weddings purely as a control method to discomfort everyone else present and place ourselves subconsciously in a position of power. Watch your back, Women™ are coming for you to keep our secret silent.

      A tone indicator shouldn’t be necessary. It should be pretty clear that different people just like different things. You might prefer a judge, but myself and my fiancée want a wedding. You claim it causes stress to the guests and participants, but all my friends and family, myself included, love attending weddings. They’re fun parties to celebrate love. All women, like all people, are different. Men can like weddings too.

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        3 months ago

        As a gay man, I watch from the outside. In my boomer experience, it is a horror show and power play. Good for you if you enjoy it. Go for it! Don’t expect for everyone to see it that way. Cheers.

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          3 months ago

          It totally can be. You should avoid ubiquitous blanket statements, you’re bound to be wrong a fair percentage of the time. Judgement doesn’t look good on anyone. There are plenty of issues with the institution of marriage, especially since it’s been established with a hetero-centric point of view. I’m a gay woman, I’m fully aware of this, and we’ve made active choices to do things our way, not society’s, as do many other gay and straight couples. There is always nuance.