• Tryptaminev@lemm.ee
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    4 months ago

    I dunno. Dating long can bring its own gigantic bag of issues. You will have to build every relationship from the start. If you have a bag of expectations, fears, maybe even hard trauma that you project onto the relationship early on, it will make it more difficult to build the relationship.

    “Oh my god he is not answering the phone. He is probably cheating on me right now how ex#3 did.”

    “She said she loves me after only week three of us having a thing. This is just like crazy ex#5.”

    “He didn’t say he loves me after its been four weeks already. He is probably only affectionate now but will turn cold and distant like ex#4.”

    • SadSadSatellite @lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      4 months ago

      But those are all personality traits you need to discover and address before you’re married. If you’re the one bringing those concerns, you need to get yourself in check before jumping into long term relationships.