the colleague in question feels that only her way of doing things is the right one and expects me to adapt to her way of thinking and her logic. This is tiring and burdensome because I have to force me to stop doing things automatically and efficiently, but think how she wants it done and do it her way. I work worse when this happens.
There are several ways to reach the same goal and I always adapt according to the situation at hand. I do what feels logic at the time and work my way.
I already told the charge nurse charge about it but I don’t know if she had a conversation with this coworker and what was said.
The message has to be neutral and polite. What do you think of this?
I feel you believe you are my boss. You are not. Stop telling me how to work. It’s tiring. You have your way of doing things, I’ve got mine, both equally good. Should you have a problem with this, contact the charge or manager. I’m gonna go work now.
I would start out more conciliatory. You want a positive outcome, right?
Hey Jane,. I really appreciate that you’re invested in my professional development. Working with you has taught me a lot. But I have my own way of processing and organizing my work. Would you mind if I did things my own way going forward?
Afterward document this conversation by sending it to yourself by email. Continue to document your repeated, polite, professional requests. If necessary, bring to your boss if the situation escalates. But it’s always best to try to work things out directly with your coworkers if you can, before bringing in management. You’re going to have to keep working together regardless.
That’s good except “Would you mind…” should be “I’m going to do things (this way, according to the needs of the situation, by the book, …) going forward.” It’s assertive instead of passive.