• silence7@slrpnk.netOP
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    7 months ago

    About 1/3 of boys that age haven’t figured that out yet. That’s an awful lot of potential victims for this kind of extortion.

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      7 months ago

      What’s your source for that? I’m actually asking, not trying to be dismissive.

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        7 months ago

        My recollection of a study about 20 years back where they asked college women to ask out guys at random. About a third of the guys who said yes were in a relationship.

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          7 months ago

          oh thats interesting and sad. do you know which study that was?

          also not trying to be dismissive, but I wonder how they asked the men out. like was it clear that it was a date or could it be mistaken for someone who was looking for someone to drink a beer together?

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            7 months ago

            I doubt I’ll find it;; it was in the paper-journals era. If I recall correctly, the form of question ranged from “it’s a date” to “let’s sleep together”

            A LOT of guys at that age just want to get laid more, and a big chunk simply don’t care about existing relationships if they think they can get away with it. This matches my personal experience.