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    Wasn’t Play Boy rather progressive at all times? What’s the broken clock?

    I really hate peoples’ misconstruing of attraction with objectification. The presence of nudity doesn’t make something bad, exploitative, or wrong. The presence of someone attractive does not mean that is the entire point.

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      Good lord no, playboy was always super misogynistic. Hugh Hefner was MASSIVELY problematic lol.

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        I won’t defend Hefner, but the articles genuinely were (and are) as far to the left as you’ll see in any widely circulated publication. Being associated with porn gave them cover to write whatever they wanted.

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          Penn Jillette was a writer for playboy, and Margret Atwood, Kurt Vonnegut, Roald Dahl

          Like tons of famous autrhors.

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          The hilarious part is that as the number and availability of nude photos has increased geometrically, buying old vintage Playboys for the articles is legitimately a thing now.

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            It doesn’t hurt that their articles were actually iconic.

            Seriously though. My straight mom apparently used to subscribe to playboy.

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        He wanted Playboy to be progressive (on abortion, weed, euthanasia, sexuality, etc), and he wanted equality for women, but he personally didn’t live by those same rules. Rules for thee, not for me, etc.
        That’s just my opinion, though.

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        For sure but that doesn’t mean he couldn’t be progressive especially for the time. Know nothing about him tbh but many historical progressive figures are pretty problematic

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          There is definitely something to be said of context. Any learned feminist should know that. First and second wave feminism would be (and are) downright toxic by today’s standards, but back then, that veneer of vicious independence was absolutely necessary when pitted against that very ingrained patriarchy of the time.

          Not to say the patriarchy is solved by any means, just that fewer and fewer positions of power are gendered by expectation.

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            Yeah and it should be noted that second and third wave feminism weren’t happening separately, most of their existence was simultaneous, it was thesis and antithesis, call and response. Second did things and third called it out. Anti porn feminism came about criticizing men taking sexual advantage of women and then the third responded with shit like all women porn collectives creating porn by women for women and presenting the statement that porn isn’t inherently exploitative, men use porn to exploit women for sexual pleasure and financial gain.

            Criticism of playboy from a feminist perspective is deeply rooted in the second wave. It was Steinem who led it and she was as many iconic second wave theorists were, not wrong but incomplete. (Side note, I’m mentioning her a lot and need to point out her role in the satanic panic, she’d 1000% be into Qanon today). But Steinem wouldn’t care that playboy published everything from Hunter S. Thompson to Margaret Atwood to a frank discussion about her transition with Wendy Carlos.

            They absolutely exploited women’s bodies to sell good journalism, but it was damn good journalism, so in the end it’s just kinda weird

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        While Hefner was a bit of an enigma, he was definitely chauvinistic in his private life in my opinion, but Playboy and even Hefner himself was pretty left on social issues including being sex positive and equality for women.

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        It was a mix. Hefner was an absolute pig, and Steinem’s famous expose must be acknowledged here. But also it was the main magazine of counterculture. They would publish feminists. They would publish anyone interesting.

        Wendy Carlos actually had an iconic interview with them talking about her transition and it was in part because their articles were willing to treat her like a person and take her seriously. Their porn on the other hand, once again, super fucking misogynistic.

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          I also recall that they would publish academics arguing for gay rights in the letters to the editors

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    Attitudes about gays and transgenders actually got worse coming from the 1960s into the 1980s. The sexual revolution actually created a generation far more open and accepting, and the culture that lead to things like the Satanic panic, war on drugs, and resurgence of patriotism and religiosity in the United States actually made things worse for gay and trans.

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      Indeed, and in a broader view, humanity has literally always had trans people as long as it has had a concept of gender. So “in the 80s” is emphasizing the cultural lie that acceptance is a recent phenomenon, when actually bigotry about it is the recent phenomenon. The 80s were certainly not an amazing time for LGBTQ folk, but Playboy at least would have been sex-positive and accepting.

      So this isn’t a “stopped clock is right twice a day” situation, because sex-positive spaces and media would have been more reliable clocks than the culture at large, when it came to this subject.

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      I think it’s also important to understand the real nuances there. For trans people it got worse into the 80s, like a lot worse. For cis gay people it got different. In the 60s being openly gay would probably get you fired and arrested and it was considered a mental illness. And the sexual revolution was somewhat open minded, but not particularly, better but by no means good. By the 80s it was a culture war issue. The people who’d discounted you as mentally ill were now crying for your death by aids as a sinner spreading your sin. Where before they could ignore you now they were acknowledging you.

      For trans people it was just unequivocally worse. In the 60s you were a medical curiosity and possibly a cure to homosexuality. Your forebears had been so aggressively stamped out that the cultural hate had been somewhat forgotten. But by the 80s everyone had found a reason to hate you. The right considered you no different from gay people except sneakier, and second wave feminism had decided that you were antithetical to feminism and deserved to be shunned. All while if you weren’t pretty and straight you couldn’t even get access to hormones and if you couldn’t completely bury your past your job options mostly involved sex work.

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      There were 2 types of baby boomer. The culturally freeing, drug taking, sexual revolution, playboy buying type.

      And the type who hated those free people and thought they were morally wrong. If they were invited they wouldn’t have turned up to any of that stuff anyway.

      I’d love to see a study on if the free living cohort died early or not. Because they aren’t in the majority of that generation now. Voting wise they swung the US towards the Republicans, the “greatest” generation and the “silent” generation leaned democrat.

      Lots of what was seen as progressive could be framed as no-one should face an oppressive culture. Or it could be framed as I shouldn’t face an oppressive culture.

      It will take a hundred years before the bizarre social coincidence of such a large generation gets understood. Once they, and maybe their children, aren’t around to write the history books an objective viewing might not show them in a positive light overall.

      Coasted on the success of the generation before, taken from the generation after. Held back social progress as soon as they had wealth.

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        I’ve seen some talk of how many of the free living type basically burned themselves out and found god and capitalism. There was definitely a conservative ex hippie ultra Christian movement in the 70s. And it makes sense to me, I’ve seen those people as a millennial in my own generation. Some people go wild and decide they need balance others go wild and decide that fun is bad.

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        There was a study somewhere in the reddit days that would say: every generation gets to be mostly leftist when young and transition to rightist as they age; but the last generation (millennials? Z?) also tends to follow the trend but the trend is weaker than it ever was. Remain to be seen where they learn when they get r to middle age.

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        Led to a big dip in the arts as well.

        Look at Tony Best Musical winners/nominees from the 90s. The only truly memorable ones (and probably the only ones still touring) are Rent (surprise, AIDS!) and Miss Saigon. Then a couple of Disney shows (Lion King and Beauty and the Beast) and that’s about it.

        Starts picking up in 2001 again with Full Monty and The Producers…2002, Mama Mia…2003, Hairpray…2004, Wicked…2005, Spamalot…2006, Jersey Boys and The Wedding Singer…and so on. Nearly every season has had an amazing blockbuster show that has (or will have) staying power. The late 80s and 90s were a total rut for that.

        I’d even say it started falling off earlier, circa 1979. What did we get after Sweeney Todd? The entire decade, best shows were Cats, Phantom, Joseph, Into the Woods and Les Mis. That’s about it. And a lot of people aren’t Cats-people.

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    The joke itself does a kind of bait & switch, it makes you think it’s going to be a trans joke, but then the last line sort of subverts expectations. The trans portion is necessary for the setup, as the punchline doesn’t make much sense without it, but it’s more a gender inequality joke.

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    Why do people say “okay, but also….”

    When not responding to anyone having said anything? Why is this a thing?

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      It’s just new slang like mfw, few, fml, catfish, dm, etc It’s helpful to have a sort of common language over so many cultures by all sharing internet culture. When you see something like ‘okay, but also’ you know that likelu even is the point, that there is something they wanna put out there that they know wouldn’t have a normal opportunity to and it’s being playful about it not taking themselves seriously.

      Oh wait was that a rhetorical question?

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          Yeah, I think it’s kind of just a way to be like “OKAY, SEGUE TO RANDOM CRAZY THOUGHT”. Like it makes it seem a bit more zany too me while also acknowledging that without more context the post seems kind of unhinged.

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    So, for anyone that’s curious, testicles are weird pain wise. They have a lot of pressure sensitive nerves on the surface of the testicles themselves. But if you, for example, were to hypothetically push a needle like object into the center of a testicle. You would feel the pressure of the needle pushing on the testicle, but once it pops through there is very little sensation at all.

    Edit: Even though this is true this is NOT medical advice. Do not do this as it could have potentially serious consequences. I feel like I shouldn’t have to say this, but here we are.

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      I’ll just file that under “things I never wanted to know.”

      The closest I can relate is having a vasectomy but even then the pain is in the recovery.

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        Well, given that they (at least here) do jab you with a needle during a vasectomy in order to apply local anesthetic yeah it’s pretty close. Didn’t hurt all that much though and the pain was pretty quick.

        The worst pain of the vasectomy is getting sacked right on the clips afterwards.

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    Not the worst, although I’m not a fan of the continuation of the idea everyone seems to have that bottom surgery for trans women is the same as “chopping off your dick and/or balls”.

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    “Not offensive” fucking narcissist lol. It doesn’t offend the trans community, no, instead it raises one of the biggest problems that 49% of the population has, for which there is no reason beyond that our meritocracy - not all, just ours - operates on sexist principles. If it doesn’t offend you you aren’t paying attention to what’s really important, which of course is always the problem with the sex obsessed.

    I mean, it’s a good joke, but to call it not offensive is to self identify as male.

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      So, uh, that’s the joke.

      We should probably call some physicists to document this, as it’s rare that you see such a perfect superposition of both getting the joke and not getting it. You may in fact be entangled with the joke now… Do you feel unusual in any way?

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      “Not offensive” fucking narcissist lol.

      mate, just get off your phone and go outside for a bit.

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      Isn’t it not offensive given it’s punching up?

      Maybe my biases show, that I think it’s calling attention to wage inequity.

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      Comedy is tragedy plus time. You won’t find many jokes that don’t have some offensive interpretation. We can laugh about them anyways when we know they are made in good faith. Good faith in this context would be using the joke to call attention towards the prevalent sexism in our society. Obviously you have the right to be offended when you see a known misogynist make the same joke.

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      Sweet, sweet unreasonabro, if you think the place you call “ours” is 1) A meritocracy and 2) the only place that operates on sexist principles, then I formally request an invite to the incredibly sheltered place you call home, because it’s going to survive the heat death of the universe given how removed from reality is.

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      Where does someone take offense to the joke? It points out the pay gap unexpectedly, comedy has been used to point out inequality for centuries. They didn’t say they should be paid less, maybe employers could be offended for the generalization that they pay women less lol.