• ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works
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    11 months ago

    Isn’t that how most people socialize at parties? Some people can do it naturally, but I figure most people are pretending. I frequently ask myself “What would a normal human do in this situation?”

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      11 months ago

      i feel like it depends: is this a party you want to be at or not?

      if it’s a party you don’t want to be at you’ll probably be pretending

      also: if you feel like this on basically a daily basis… yeah you probably have autism, welcome to the club.

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        11 months ago

        What few people ever mention is … alcohol and sometimes drugs.

        Very few people imagine a party without some intoxicant. Even children’s parties, parents will give a party for the kids but the adults seperate themselves to enjoy a bit of alcohol.

        Just think of it … a party with 20 adults and no alcohol or drugs. Some people can do it but the majority of the population would avoid it.

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          11 months ago

          you’re just describing a LAN party or a DND session, nerds have had “parties” without alcohol or drugs for ages.

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            11 months ago

            I agree … Nerds and DND people sound like a sensible bunch because they actually go out of their way to have fun without intoxicants.

            What I’m talking about is the 90% of the population that can’t relate to other humans without getting a little drunk.

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              11 months ago

              DND table without at least one person being insufferable about the microbrew sour six-pack they brought challenge [IMPOSSIBLE}

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          11 months ago

          “Many respectable physicists said that they weren’t going to stand for this – partly because it was a debasement of science, but mostly because they didn’t get invited to those sort of parties.”

          The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy

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      11 months ago

      I mean, that’s my experience but I’m neurodivergent. My understanding is that that isn’t the norm for the allistic crowd.

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      11 months ago

      I think it depends how close you are with the people around you. I had a good time at a friend’s holiday party recently (with no drugs or alcohol) just because I really love those folks and I’d enjoy spending time with them no matter what.

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      11 months ago

      As a introvert, that pretending will drain my batteries SO fast.

      Everyone else still going four hours in

      Me, dead in a corner after hour two

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      11 months ago

      It comes out a lot more at work events. Some people like them, but a lot of people don’t and are just faking.