When I was on Reddit I felt like my opinion didn’t matter. But here it just feels more open and free.
Deleted My reddit account , tried all of the fediverse before but always went back to propriety for same reason as anyone else. Everyone is there. With the Reddit exodus I feel this will get the push it needs
Every comment I would make on Reddit seemed to get challenged by someone looking to start a long-winded argument as they were, in fact, the main character of the universe.
I like it here because so far, people are nice. It’s like the first day of high school and everyone just wants to be friends and meet people.
No karma competition here. It has a bigger effect on behaviour than you’d think.
It’s like a little trophy or a symbol of validity to some people. You’d see big edits addressing downvoted as if people got personally hit in the head with them.
I don’t blame people though because viscerally, these things are little tokens of “approval” by others at large.
Reddit gamified participation, and the result was an addiction to trying to say things that people would click the updoot for. Here, the comment / post score is used purely to determine the relevance and value of the individual comments and posts. I think the result is clear: people feel less compelled to post the meme, the shitpost, the expected something and are more likely to express a thought they have, or think is valuable to the conversation.
The result is less stuff, but the stuff is more nuanced, interesting, and engaging (even if the engagement metrics are lower). It’s also a less stressful environment to interact with, and is just kinda all around better since no one is trying to profit
God, I love this place. Instead of having to navigate through a mob of idiots to express an opinion or have a discussion, it’s simply informed, quality discussion from top to bottom. What a good feeling, almost gives me hope for humanity
Cherish it now haha. If this place ever gets a lot more popular, you’ll start seeing all sorts of dumb takes and behaviours again 🤪
That’s why I’m feeling a lot better about the steady rate of growth here. At first I just wanted to get everyone over from reddit ASAP, now I’m like okay, I could get used to the small town vibes with a bunch of cool people.
It’s going to be an amazing journey as this place continues to grow. Just remember to laugh at the inevitable drama and cry at the bad memes. Never the other way around 🙃
Small town vibes is exactly how I’d put it haha. I tend to recognize a few posters here and there. Just like at my town’s post office 😂
Votes have a bandwagon effect, both up and down votes. Sometimes it just felt like arguing with an army of mute downvoting zombies; no reply, just downvotes. I completely understand some communities on Lemmy disabling downvotes, even if that means there is no mora a “controversial” vote.
My only fear is that as Lemmy gets bigger, the same botting, brigading and mindless bandwagoning, will also come here.
I feel like your characterization of Reddit users as long-winded and contrarian is inaccurate and frankly offensive. Let me write you several paragraphs about why you’re wrong, sprinkled with thinly veiled personal insults and outright harsh commentary about you as a person.
Sorry, just trying to make it feel like our old home :)
Lmao this was good. You forgot to comb through my post history to see if you can make your comment even more hard-hitting by referencing a personal problem I have that was highlighted in a post or comment from 6 months ago 🤪
They’re here. I got banned from no stupid questions for asking in the comments why an incredibly small group of people gets to define how I use language.
What’s the context? Sounds vague.
If I remember correctly I was arguing that “gender assigned at birth” already had a word for it and it was sex. Somebody asked about intersex people. I said I didn’t see the point in altering my language for such a vanishingly small group. Then a week later the powermod decided to look through my comments and came to the conclusion that I was breaking “rule 7” which is some vague shit about being nice or something. That was one of the things that made me abandon lemmy.world. Old reddit mindset. I left reddit 8 years ago because of that crap and never went back.
I say powermod because they have a over a dozen subs started basically all mirroring reddit ones.
Ya you absolutely deserved to catch flack for that.
You are saying that gender is the same as sex and they’re categorically different things. It’s very easy to learn the difference so if you insist on arguing against facts, you’re damn right people are going to butt against you.
You’re arguing against treating people with kindness by pointing to the fact that they’re a minority. Lmao that’s the definition of a bigot.
If I’m having a conversation with an intersex person that actually cares, which with their prevalence I doubt it will ever happen, I will respect them. Why should I have to change the language I use outside of such a rare situation? We have terms like Biological Sex which mean something, and then we have bullshit like “gender assigned at birth” which on purpose mean nothing. Stop trying to make language intentionally tiring.
I like I can say the words Tiannamen and Square and not feel like bots are out to get me 🙂
As the antagonist of this thread, I would have to disagree with this statement. I was, initially, very dismayed to see that no one had taken issue with this comment. Alas, here I am, to set things right. Being that most online communities seem to revolve around my person, I thought that I’d share these thoughts that so many of you had been patiently awaiting.
No but fr, huge fan of these communities. The voices that search out an argument don’t seem to gain quite as much traction on fedi (yet, at least). Probably due to them having a larger overall audience on reddit to feel validated by. Hopefully it stays that way!
I am definitely more active on here than Reddit. I’ve had the same experience as you but I’m tired of gawking at those know it all cockbags. They’ll be here at some point but yeah, it’s a nice community here.
The issue with reddit is that it turns everyone into know it all assholes. The discussion is absolutely horrendous over there. Here it’s so much better and more sensible.
Make no mistake, it will also happen here over time. Unless admins and mods work hard to prevent it. Some instances will do better than others.
Same thing here, half my comments on Reddit attracted shallow arguments, the other half hour ignored. Less than 1% lead to real discussion.
Here, half my comments get ignored, the other half lead to real discussion, i like it!
Lemmy just feels better to comment/interact with. I just feel more motivated to be active on here.
I was a 10 year lurker on reddit. Now I have my own Lemmy instance
I feel like I am not yet, but I will be. Some of the subs I have on Reddit aren’t here yet, partly because they’re either niche or liked by a lot of people that are less tech literate including their maintainers.
I have gone trough some instances before deciding on my current one and I like the stance of most that are for an active discussion, against mindless downvotes and for overall more communication than social media consumption.
The fact that there is next to no automated account making will also help in the long run I think. It makes it an less attractive target for the bad kind of bots imo.
Those niche communities you are missing? Recreate them here, and invite people over there to join.
I would if I had the time to get things off the ground and moderate in the beginning. I wouldn’t want to throw up an instance and then just leave it on its own.
I am not sure if my current server allows for instance creation, since I did not prioritise that when choosing it.
Most of those I am missing are also very picture heavy, now that I think about it. Like constant streams of pictures rather than text posts, which might not be the best for lemmy right now? I imagine it would increase load way faster than text posts do.
I will check through the community finder again later and see which topics might have gotten an instance in the mean time. It has been two weeks since I last checked.
Not yet. My niche communities don’t exist in the fediverse yet like they do on Reddit, and I do not have the bandwidth to start new communities right now. Excited to watch it grow and continue to contribute where I can.
Gonna have to buck the trend and say, no.
I had good experiences on Reddit, I was active in a few different communities and had good engagement without the ‘avalanche of toxic responses’ some people here are describing.
I’m leaving Reddit due to the changes at the top, not because of problems at the grass roots.
Same here. Of course there was always the occasional troll looking for a fight, but mostly acceptable to pleasant interactions.
Have recently made the jump from Reddit. With a brilliant 3rd party app - go figure!! I expect to be more active here.
Which one are you using?
I surprise myself that I’m more active on lemmy than on reddit.
Yes. It’s far less hostile here and I don’t fear getting downvoted to hell for asking a question.
Yeah and lemmy still shows upvotes even if you get downvoted. Also it doesn’t automatically hide your comment if you get negative votes which I find annoying on Reddit
I am, absolutely, less intimidating. Remember there are literally dozens of us.
It feels like you can join in later. There are not thousands of replies in the first few hours. So commenting or participating was a waste of time before in many bigger subs. Noone would ever see your answer anyway or interact with you, so there was really no point.
Here it feels like you are actually participating in some way. I really like it.
Just started today, but as my reddit activity is going down to zero …. Yes lol
