• Caradoc879@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Lol i love you you completely prove my point. Like a true neurotypical lol. “It’s NoT mY JoB To heLP YOu! JuSt FuCkInG Do IT yOU lAzY SAck oF ShiT!”

    That’s what you fucking sound like.

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      11 months ago

      I appreciate where you’re coming from, I have ADHD too, but it’s true that if the answer is “I can’t do that” and “that” needs to be done… Then I shouldn’t be the one whose responsibility it is to do it. I’ve taken on more responsibility in my current job than I can handle, and that was a huge mistake. It is not on my employer to just put up with that because I’m neurodivergent, obviously they have a role to play in supporting me but I also need to understand what my limits and strengths are and work within them.

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      11 months ago

      It’s being a realist.

      If I have to drag you through a task because you aren’t capable of doing it then it’s easier to just not give it to you to begin with and do it myself.

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        11 months ago

        Thats a real team-based solution focused attitude lol. Nowhere did I say “do it for them”. I said help them. Because hey guess what, sometimes people can’t do things by themselves. Like I said, standing behind someone and going “just do it” doesn’t work. If they need help they need help. And yeah, at some point if they can’t do it, they can’t do it, and you need someone else to do it.

        The key is finding responsibilities and roles that fit the disability. I struggle with the day to day chores, but I also have no problem with scheuled big, non-daily projects like deep cleaning or yard work or whatnot that i can hyperfocus on for 6 hours. It’s all about strengths and weaknesses and finding people and jobs that are compatible.

        Nothing you’ve said I inherently disagree with, your tone is just so aggressively dismissive and accusatory.