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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Definitely the former. The difference is not worth the price hike for me. I guess it’s like with really high performance cars. I appreciate that a Ferrari f40 is in a league of its own and truly extraordinary, I just can’t be bothered to spend that much money on it.

    I guess it’s the same with many things. The difference between low quality and high quality is really noticeable and usually comes with a substantial cost. But the difference in cost between high (even exceptional) quality and top-tier truly one-of-a-kind is usually very high, and not worth it for me.








    • you save a lot of money. People easily forget how it all adds up.
    • you save a lot of space. Cars take up a huge amount of space and are just sitting around 90+% of the time. Imagine what you could do with a garage if you didn’t own a car.
    • you save a lot of time. A car needs maintenance, it needs to get cleaned, etc. All of that takes up time.
    • less worries. About money, about it getting stolen or damaged, etc.
    • you don’t need a driver’s license per se if you don’t own a car.
    • you don’t have the sunk cost forcing you to use it. Say you buy a car and then you end up barely using it. You might feel obliged to use the car to go shopping or to go on vacation, because it would be ‘wasted’ otherwise.


  • There are degrees of monitoring. This is basically my approach:

    • no smartphone before 12yrs old
    • no computer, tablet, smartphone or similar in their bedroom before 16yrs old, specifically at night.
    • family link (android) installed, with tighter controls the younger they are. This is discussed and also explained as a measure to protect them
    • if they are under 16, we create social media accounts together and discuss what is appropriate, what can/should be public/private etc.

    That is basically it. A lot of it is being around, available and approachable. It’s not perfect, but it has several layers of protection, and is built around creating trust and teaching valuable media skills.

    If I had to pick one, I’d say the ‘no internet devices in bedrooms’ would be the most valuable one. Because of that, I know what games my kids play, they can deconnect at night, and it’s fairly easy to enforce.