Well if I’m going to ‘get it,’ you have to actually explain it. You’re dancing around the issue and I can’t tell for sure if it’s because you never get to this point in the conversation, or if you legitimately don’t know. You’ve been told to not like something and you’re following through on that, but it’s clear you just can’t fit the parts together. Why would being a blood-parent allow you to send your ideals forward, yet being an adoptive parent, or an uncle, or just a member of the community wouldn’t allow it? Do you feel your parents chose who you are, and how you think, and that you’ll do the same for your kids?
It takes a lot of people to make a missile, yet it only takes one to declare war. Who’s more at fault? If I steal a thousand elderly people’s retirement savings, and someone else steals my car, are we equally thieves? What if the son of a person who I stole from took it, does that change anything?