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Low maintenance friend as I like to be called.
That is what I tell everyone. I don’t need constant reassurance, and I suck at providing it to those that need it.
It’s true, but my best friend hasn’t called for years because he got tired of me not calling him back. Anxiety is a bitch.
Can you send a text or email and tell them that? Just say, hey my anxiety is preventing me from calling you and guilt for all the time past is feeding it.
“I want to call, but I feel guilty about not calling for so long. Do you want me to call?”
Some people will tell you to fuck off, some will grit their teeth and say yes, and some will just be happy you’re talking again. It can hurt to lose a friend, but it’s better to lay it on the table and let them choose you or not instead of wallowing in the guilt.
If only the inverse was true too. If only an ADHD person could ghost a friend and reconnect like no time has past.
I notice this becomes truer the more I mature. When I was younger, this wasn’t the case. I’d like to think it’s because I have better, deeper friendships now, but I don’t know for sure what the reason is.
Wait…that’s an ADHD thing? I do this, and I often wondered why when no one did the same…
It certainly can be because of our time blindness on a larger scale.
