Indicators like nonverbal language exist and then there are certain things we attach to personality traits like wearing a trump hat but also when you prejudge a person you change your own behavior and increase the chances for the outcome you expect based upon your judgement

Relational frame theory, pygmalion effect, expectancy effect, etc

You shouldn’t judge a book only by its cover, but the cover can give you a lot of information about the book.

A book’s cover really only has two functions:

1. Protect the book

2. Tell you little bit about the book so you can judge whether or not to read it

Judging them by the first 5 minutes of interaction is the cover. As a fast food employee you’re not going to learn that they just got fired from their job and the divorce was just completed today and the wife gets all the kids.

The rule that the way you go into the interaction reciprocally influences the way people interact with you might be more important here. So if you treat ppl with the expectation that theyre gonna be dicks, guess what, theyre gonna feel that and probably wont be too pleased about it and behave accordingly.

Non verbal communication is quite the thing.

It’s mostly for young people that it matters to not judge them based on their appearance, they lack the skill and experience to show who they are.

With exposure to neurodivergent posts online, it became apparent to me that even interacting with people is an unreliable way of discerning someone’s character.

Some people are highly anxious, which can manifest in all sorts of ways, from seeming like an asshole, to being erratic and sketchy.

I’m sure we’ve all had situations where we said something, later realizing how it could be misconstrued.

Then we’ve got people with autism, schizophrenia, ADHD, depression, etc.

And that’s without mentioning the personal circumstances of the day, week or month.

Just don’t judge people if it’s unlikely to cost you anything.

Choose compassion, patience and respect. You will never know the plight of a stranger.

Only terrible publishers pick covers that don’t match the book’s contents is all I have to say.

I think the phrase has the same basic problem as a lot of common advice… the real truth is more nuanced than any pithy phrase could ever be. At best, it’s a quick way of reminding someone who already knows better but has temporarily forgotten.

Anon is just too stupid to understand a saying, or even ask for an explanation

People lie with words all the time, but their body language always tells the real truth if you learn to listen

Anon is being sloppy, with hoe hr treats people no less

Customer facings roles can do that, it’s almost necessary.

I’m surely just deranged, but I wholeheartedly believe I can tell someone’s political leaning without even having to speak to them, just from their appearance. So far I’ve had incredible accuracy.

Edit: nothing against anyone commenting, but I don’t care a lot about this particular innocuous comment and don’t want to have discussions about it forever, so I’m going to quit replying to new comments, feel free to leave them or downvote me or whatever, I’m just dipping on this greentext thread.