Met a 22 yo in a group I am involved in, she asked if I wanted a lift to a meeting, there and back. I don’t know her very well but she’s young a lot younger than me by 10years.
So talking on the way back she mentions antidepressants, I too take anti depressants, the conversation moves towards SSRIs and sex. I panic because that shit makes me supper uncomfortable, she said some stuff that was a blatant hint. Anyway me and her have activity later in the week for the group we’re in, she’s invited me out for a drink after and being friendly and uncomfortable I said yea sure.
How best to proceed? I don’t want things to be weird and our group get weird as a result. I wish I could set boundaries.
Worth mentioning I have crazy anxiety so don’t judge too hard I mostly run on auto pilot in those situations.
The lower limit is half your age plus seven, so if you’re 32 years old then it makes sense to feel uncomfortable. Are you even attracted to her?
No not attracted. Awesome human being and glad to have her in the group but beyond guidance and comradory I have no interest.
Well that’s that. If she tries to make it more than friends hanging out, then just politely decline.