• AItoothbrush@lemmy.zip
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    2 months ago

    The amount of times women told me after a conversation that they appreciate me being just friendly and not hitting on them is kinda worrying. We humans create so many problems for ourselves…

    • EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      2 months ago

      Emotionally stunted men cannot tell the difference between being friendly and wanting to fuck because that’s the only strong positive emotion they were ever truly allowed to feel as kids/teenagers.

      It’s a huge cultural issue, and we can all thank toxic masculinity and the patriarchy for not allowing boys to have feelings or deep platonic relationships and then growing up to misinterpret any friendly interaction as a romantic advance.

    • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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      2 months ago

      hitting on them

      Life pro tip, you’re probably more likely to find a mate if you’re not scaring all the potential mates away. Make friends, and if you enjoy spending time together, ask if they’d be interested in something more formal (e.g. a date).