Are zipties or handcuffs sufficient?
Tools! I need my tools!
IT’S FETISH SHIT! I LIKE TO BIND AND BE BOUND!!!
Only if your sub is cool with it, but they need to know going in that either option is likely to chafe and dig into the sensitive skin around their wrists, possibly even causing bleeding depending on how much they strain against them. Definitely not recommended for a first time if you don’t know what your own responses to stimuli are likely to be.
Much better to use a soft hemp rope, around a quarter inch thick or more, and make sure you’re binding with safe knots. You can’t just go in with any old naval knot or whatever; there are specific bindings that are safe for use on people; look them up. Always check your bindings to ensure a safe amount of slack (you should be able to easily slide a finger around any part of the wrist or ankle for proper circulation) and always make sure you have a set of EMT clothing shears handy in case something goes wrong. No, kitchen scissors are not good enough; EMT shears have serration, and specially shaped blades, in order to cut through heavy fabric or bindings easily.
Also please don’t use duct tape, there’s literally no way to have it bind but also have sufficient slack. You will impede circulation. Just a terrible idea.
There are padded, even fuzzy, handcuffs. Zip ties are never going to be comfortable. The sign doesn’t say anything about consent, though. It merely specifies “must.”
It’s not my bag, baby, so I know very little about that subculture… but FWIW “only if your sub is cool with it” should be a universally understood given, right? In the “goes without saying” way.
It should go without saying, but unfortunately there’s a lot in the kink space that should go without saying, but still has to be said, over and and over, because a lot of people come into the scene via entry points like 50 Shades that are almost antithetical to the idea of safe consensual kink.
Also, fair warning, the “padding” on most padded cuffs won’t do shit to stop them from digging in. Fabric compresses against metal, with the result that you still have an unyielding and relatively small point of contact. A good safe bondage knot will spread the point of restraint across several inches of skin, so the pressure at any one point is minimal.
Shibari You Can Use has some excellent guides to safe restraint, if you want to learn more.
Shibari You Can Use has some excellent guides to safe restraint, if you want to learn more.
Ha, thanks. But no. I’m neither a sadist, nor a masochist; hurting or being hurt is the biggest turn-off for me.
To each their own.
Tying and/or being tied up in itself has nothing to do with pain.
Yep. And this, right here, is a perfect example of “things that should go without saying still need to be said.”
People should know that bondage and sado-masochism are not the same thing, and yet so many don’t.
Or does there need to be a metal bikini and giant slug involved?
Tentacles. There need to be tentacles.
Only if they’re pink handcuffs
Sounds like Debbie may be getting a call from HR soon…
Damn fun police!
Damn fun, police!
So, a man with long hair doesn’t need to be tied up (neither the man nor his hair).
A good friend liked to go to these kind of rhetorical legal battles with the school and the dress code. It was hilarious. She used neon green hair for three months due to a weird wording on some rule or another about colored hair. Then they would change it to something more restrictive but she would find the loopholes and challenge them again. She once got us to loan her our watches and wore over 20 wrist watches due to a stupid rule about bracelets. Wore all sorts of ridiculous clothes colors and patterns, and queues, horns and bunny ears. Went as a clown when they tried to regulate makeup. After two years of madness the school board called her to negotiate a truce. They removed the ancillary dress code, uniform was still mandatory but anything beyond the basic four pieces of clothing students would be free as long as it wasn’t nudity or disrupted other students. Skirts were made optional, the origin of the whole conflict. In return she was just asked to stop trying to give the poor principal a heart attack (an old conservative religious hag).
She still wore colorful stuff and accessories after that. But at least she wasn’t in heated arguments during detention everyday anymore. She wanted to abolish uniform altogether but in a way she sort of won.
Your friend sounds like an awesome person to hang out with.
Maybe I’m just dumb but what does queue mean here? I thought it was like a line for people to wait in
Oops, sorry. Not a native English speaker. Braids, rows, queues? I’m not sure which one is the correct word now. It was an extravagant haircut with lots of braids queued on the back.
Also not native, but I don’t think you can’t use the word queue or line for hair. You can use braids, you can use tail or you can say tied back.
I get it though cause in Italian we too have the same word for line of people and hair tail (coda)
yes daddy
Debbie*
Look, I don’t make the rules.
Just the signs 😉
Me, who hasn’t cut my hair in very close to a decade now: can boys be included too? 🥺👉👈
Me neither! It reaches from my nostrils down past my lips.
The old nosetache!
Kinky
Just settled all my lawsuits, fuck-you, Debbie!
Damn Debbie.
I have long hair, but thankfully this is not applicable as I am a man.
Who said guys couldn’t be tired up.😉😉
The sign, but i’m listening😏
If they’re a company that deals in exposed machinery where hair can be caught in running, then good for them. It’s protective. Being essentially called isn’t fun for anyone.
If they’re not- then fuck them.
EDIT: I get it now. Thanks! I’m not good at this type of humor. So I took it literally. Thanks even for the explanations.
I feel like tying people up just for having long hair is a bit much, but I am also into rope play so whatever
I didn’t even catch that! Damn you ASD!
fellow ASDer: took me awhile to learn how to read subtext. Lots of practice and weird ideas. Now it’s almost automatic and I’ve forgotten what ideas I’ve used (remembered one, a " mental workbench"). Except now masking is my obsession and it feels like 60-70% of my brain is dedicated just to “decoding” everything I hear (i.e. figuring out unspoken intent) …
Yeah … I’d rather have just never learned this to begin with, haha … too exhausting …
Wow! It does sound exhausting. Thanks for sharing that though.
But then it applies to everyone with long hair.
Yeah I’m a metal dude who works in a chemistry lab. We exist.
That’s not what it says though. It says that the girl must be tied up if they have long hair.
Yeah. That was explained to me. I’m not good at subtle humor. So I didn’t get it at first.
Food service as well.
But this isn’t how you read that?
I didn’t get the point (or joke) of it until after when it was pointed out to me… I don’t pick up on things like that easily. Figured I’d leave my original statement up as an homage to my inability to detect subtle humor.
You’re the straight man in a comedy duo. :)
Seemingly always.
nice
Giggity
Oooh yeah
O. O dear.
