• ShaunaTheDead@fedia.io
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    Women are obsessed with true crime because we feel vulnerable, and so learning about it helps to hone our instincts to avoid dangerous situations. There’s almost always some warning sign that people ignored and they ended up getting murdered. There’s nothing wrong with true crime used as a cautionary tale. Are children sick because they read fairy tales about wolves eating grandmothers or witches cooking and eating children? Of course not. It’s the same thing.

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      You try to learn how to read people by watching true crime TV shows?

      That’s really counterproductive.

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        Well she’s right about one thing, and that’s that true crime is about as realistic and useful as fairy tales lol.

        Like come on, let’s be real: We watch true crime out of morbid curiosity and because the shows are entertaining. That’s fine! IDK why some people try to launder their interest in true crime as some sort of “research”.

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        No, you learn to recognize red flags from real life examples and make the right choices if you’re ever in that situation.

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          You’re learning red flags from a dramatization of an interpretation of a perhaps-real situation used to sell advertising. Do you think it really reflects things you should use to judge people and situations?

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            Not all true crime are dramatizations… there are a million YouTube shows out there that show you the exact footage, go over the exact details, etc…

            Shoutout to That Chapter!

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      Are children sick because they read fairy tales about wolves eating grandmothers or witches cooking and eating children? Of course not. It’s the same thing.

      Tbf, kids don’t normally seek out those stories. They were created by adults to scare children.

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          They aren’t popular though. Modern kids don’t want to hear Hansel and Gretel, they want to watch Bluey. Because what kid wants to hear about a couple of German kids getting lured by a cannibal and eaten?

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      I think it helps separate you from the victims. If you feel that you wouldn’t have made the same mistakes as the people who went and got murdered, then it feels a lot less like something that might happen to you.

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      As long you don’t get hyper sensitive to the signs. You could end up overthinking any little sign when it could mean nothing.

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        For a lot of folks, being a bit more anxious all the time or missing out on a good thing is worth not being victimized. I don’t know if people are actually less likely to be victimized but I think plenty feel that it helps.

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      Lol. Hey, you know women aren’t allowed to have an opinion about why they like a TV show without being subjected to a bunch of patronizing comments. /s

      But I think that’s a a good take, I’ve always wondered why people like true crime so much.

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        Same. It makes sense in it providing a sense of control over the potential situation.

        How someone else can just come in and say your personal reaction to something is wrong seems pretty disrespectful.

        They can have a different takeaway, but that does not make your opinion invalid.

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      Something something women are taught to hold keys between each finger just to walk out to their own car at night.

      Meanwhile dudes: gonna walk to the store and get some ice cream at midnight yum yum.

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        I always kinda wondered whether or not holding keys between your fingers would actually do anything if you punched someone, beyond just make them even more mad, especially as most people are not really trained in how to properly punch someone. I get the sense that a lot of other forms of self-defense would probably be better than that.

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          Maybe but keys are already convenient and no training. it’s about immediate options of a weapon. Still : the take away is that women have to think about these things a lot more than men which is very fucked up. So maybe give women a break if they are gonna be interested in something that eats up their existence this much as a form of anxiety. They wanna be safe. They want to understand the whale in their life. Can’t blame a person for that.

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            Maybe but keys are already convenient and no training.

            Well that was sort of my point, is that, despite the ease of access to this kind of idea, I’m pretty sure that, even just on the smell test, the “keys between the knuckles” strat wouldn’t really work. It strikes me more as something that might feel good to do, something that might assuage the kind of, passive anxiety, rather than being a good preventative measure.

            Also, what do you mean by “the whale” in their life? I’ve never heard of this metaphor before.

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      One thing i’ve learned over time, is that there is always a “warning sign” but often times in hindsight, that becomes obvious.

      Most of the time you should assume the worst from everyone in every possible situation if you want to stay safe. The only common denominator here is people trusting other people enough to be put in bad situations. (yes i realize not everything is like that, but that doesn’t apply in this context so give me that one for free)