Am I the asshole for being insistant about “wanting to murder the entire Romanov family”?

Around 4 months ago I was invited to see the school musical “Anastasia” by some theater kids that were friends of mine. I already knew the framing and content of the play is utter reactionary nonsense, but I decided to actually go yesterday night to watch to support my buddies.

The musical itself had good production quality, and there were some great unintentionally funny moments in there, too. I was dissapointed that the one communist didn’t brutally blow Anastasia’s brains out, but I definitely think the play gave me some resolve and inspires violence in me.

Anyway here is the main part, lol. It isnt the most precise retelling of events, but generally what went down, spare the details. After the play I was chatting with a bunch of the cast, and apparently one of them heard that I would have shot the Romanov family, if I was in the position to, (which they heard from a seperate friend that is actually socialist. ) I didn’t deny it, and I actually fully leaned into it. “The Romanovs had no qualms on the treatment of their people. There would be no room for abdication, no humbleness to step down, obly death, ETC…” One giggled, another person gasped, “Do you feel no sympathy for them?” My friend (who played Tzar Nicholas) asked me something like:"Would you shoot the Romanov’s even if it was me?! " “No sympathy. And yes, I would shoot regardless of personal connections” and I quickly left into the crowd. Since then, my friend has been avoiding me? idk he seems not happy with me. Am I the asshole here?

Either way, I would rather be perceived as an asshole than be a liberal in content.

    • loathesome dongeater@lemmygrad.ml
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      6 months ago

      On a serious note your response is a bit too harsh. I think the correct thing to do is to not entertain that scenario because logically it makes no sense. Your friend and Czar Nicholas are two completely separate people. If he was Nicky then he wouldn’t be himself and therefore not your friend.

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        Yeah. I suppose I could have just rejected the premise of the question…

        I am going to talk with him later today, so hopefully it’s less awkward, and I could explain that…

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    6 months ago

    You could have been a bit more diplomatic with a friend. Dishonest a bit but it would have been a chance to swerve and say that if you were their friend it wouldn’t likely get to that point, that you’d convince them to abdicate or that if you were their friend you’d likely have similar class interests and not want to shoot them so it’s a moot point. Pivot then to how much you value them as a friend but they should really read up more on the truth of the matter and that particularly ugly royal family. But it’s not always easy to keep one’s cool and be collected in the moment with the perfect things to say.

    Still you should apologize and try to explain a bit. Reframe it and explain how awful the Romanovs were as people and how you don’t see them as being like that at all.

    Romanovs did deserve it though and not the asshole for holding that point of view.

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    I think it’s not a good look to say you’ll shoot a classmate, even in hypothetical, I think it was better dismissing the hypothetical as nonsense, which it is, answering it with the question, would you condemn your population to violence and hunger? Otherwise yeah it’s not wrong to have that stance just think you could go about it a little more gracefully, cause one problem is that when we are THE communist some people know they’ll judge communism based on US and the optics of how you went about it might lead them to believe communists are more trigger happy then they are.

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    6 months ago

    NTA, the Romanovs had it coming and so does anyone who still defends them, especially the ones who think they’d leverage a friendship that CERTAINLY WOULD NOT EXIST if the petitioner were a Romanov

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    NTA. As others are saying, the Romanovs deserved it- but also- the very system of monarchy as it existed in Europe, meant that the existence of the Romanovs was a constant threat which could result in the loss of lives of millions, and a reversion to the old order (of serfdom and aristocracy). So long as the royal family existed, other European monarchs and domestic monarchists would seek to return them to power.

    Libs can cry and whine about the Romanovs or (to a lesser extent) Bourbons all they like- frankly, I wish those people could experience the same things those living under their boots in the “good old days” did. Their executions were absolutely necessary- and it’s incredibly interesting that people latch on to them as the ones to cry about, when millions of peasants, over many generations, had suffered their families’ rule- and when there is no shortage of royalty and nobility in history, outright exterminating each others’ entire family lineages, killing off rival claimants, etc… I’d go so far as to say that regicide and fratricide is a natural part of the system of monarchy throughout history.

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    I was dissapointed that the one communist didn’t brutally blow Anastasia’s brains out, but I definitely think the play … inspires violence in me.

    I don’t think this is a good thing. It is true that violence becomes regrettably necessary in resistance and revolution, but it should not be something we take pleasure in, for a myriad of reasons. It leads to adventurism, it hinders our ability to grow our movement, and it puts our culture in a bad spot post-revolution towards successfully building towards communism.

    And on a personal level, no, you should never, ever tell your friend that you would kill them under some hypothetical scenario. You should never let the conversation get to the point where that’s even a question being asked.

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    6 months ago

    Mfers be supporting carpet bombing entire villages but oh no the poor aristocrats lives matter!

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    "Would you shoot the Romanov’s even if it was me?! " “No sympathy. And yes, I would shoot regardless of personal connections”

    What for though? Where is political pragmatism?

    The amount of memes on the subject I see from western leftists makes me question if there are very few sources available in English or it’s just juvenile cruelty. It was local initiative, strongly influenced by strategic situation during the civil war in the region. Nicolas was “citizen Romanov” by then and the party had a 1001 reason to keep him and his family alive, including plans for a public trial. Lenin was pushing for their evacuation to Moscow. Also…moral implications of killing a couple of teens that were there, anyone? Kill them, because they were born into the wrong family? How very conservative… Not to mention penty of nobles up to and including at least one Major General of the Imperial army I can remember went on to form the core of the Red Army.

    Consider the implications for propaganda too. Why create a bunch of martyrs for the Whites? Using exactly this argument, later that same year Maxim Gorky convinced Lenin let Nicolas’ sick second cousin go. Lo and behold - no one remembers Gavriil Constantinovich Romanov.

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    It’s sort of beside the point, I think? Because litigating the morality of an argument over hypotheticals is a red herring to begin with. The real point is about the conditions those people were living under, the power dynamics in play, and the response necessary to secure liberation. What they did is try to put you firmly within a framework of idealism, which is about doing the “right thing” (as abstract moral principle) even if the circumstances surrounding it would tempt you to do otherwise. So in their minds, you affirmed that you are hypothetically morally bankrupt and would not do the abstract moral principle “right thing.” Naturally, that’s going to make them uncomfortable around you because idealism is all about what people are capable of and whether they are willing to strive to overcome their “base urges.”

    The question is, do you want to be friends with them? If so, you’ll probably need to go out of your way to be more diplomatic about this stuff. If this were a question of organizing, I’d say, don’t bother. Friendship and making sure you stay safe, that people aren’t viewing you as some kind of loose cannon when you aren’t, can be a little different.

    We shouldn’t have to go above and beyond to deal with people like this, and let’s be real: sometimes we’re not going to. The idealist position would say we should always strive to, no matter what. Well, sometimes it’s just not going to happen. BUT, that doesn’t mean you have to leave these situations to impulse either. What you can do is try to learn from it by reflecting on what about it didn’t work, how you would like to present yourself and your views going forward, what outcome it is that you’re even wanting. For example, are you wanting to vent? to persuade? To be the opposition when everyone is affirming the norm? Keep in mind the last one can be very difficult to do alone and it’s easy to slip into defense mechanisms instead of keeping a clear head, especially when people are throwing nonsensical hypothetical gotchas at you or citing some of the same talking points you’ve heard a thousand times.