Made a New Years Resolution to quit drinking and cant believe I’m coming up on one year sober, i stepped down daily starting jan 1st with my least favorite beer drinking less every day for 2 weeks, then after 2 weeks I started drinking Non Alcoholic beer. The last time I tried to quit I did it cold turkey and had terrible Night Terrors, was able to to avoid them this time thanks to the piss water know as Miller Lite. Went from drinking a 6 pack of IPA’S a day for years, to drinking a 6 pack of Non Alcoholic IPAs once a month. Will be quiting beer all together with the New Year!
Congrats! Check hop water if you haven’t already!
By not doing a New Year’s resolution. If you’re going to do something, start now, not in the new year. Leaving it to an arbitrary day when “everyone does something” just gives you an out when you don’t succeed. Just go and do it now. There’s literally no point in waiting and honestly a lot of reasons not to wait.
Based and true
The real new years resolution is what you started doing last year
As a huge procrastinator, it’s this thought hitting me that gets me to go do stuff, nothing gets you moving like it.
I’m glad I could help (I think?). I just think it’s funny, because imagine your doctor told you to stop eating so much meat because it was making your blood pressure high. Would you wait months to do so or start immediately? New Year’s resolutions haven’t really made any sense to me at all, and I think that’s a good way of thinking of it.
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There is nothing stopping you from making that change now. Waiting until the 1st is an indication that you probably wont follow through.
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Goals should be doable, measurable, have specific steps and have a specific end point.
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Most things I’ve done were from changing the environment around me. Most things became trivially easier when I made more… So no fault there
I’d consider HARD goals, not just SMART ones
- Heartfelt - core/passion
- Animated - inspires/energizes you
- Required - needed for a larger objective
- Difficult - effort but also confidence creating
Is it something you can sustainably do, with your support system and environment and schedule, that breaths life into you even though it’s a challenge?
Are you working in that 80% max effort space (or whatever it is for gym nerds, you get the point)
For my age (late twenties) I wouldn’t say they are great achievements, but as a person which struggles a little bit in social settings I still feel proud.
- I went to therapy for the first time to learn more about my social anxiety.
- Actually told my feelings to a close friend, which again was a first, I got rejected, but at least I did it.
- Started going to the gym, progress is slow, but I feel motivated.
- Travelled with a couple of friends outside my country.
When things are in motion it gets easier, other than that for me it is constantly trying to get out of my comfort zone.
I wanted to lose weight for my wedding. I was 230 pounds (up from about 220 pre-covid) and I wasn’t happy about how I looked or felt. So I got my wife (then fiance) onboard and told her I wanted to lose weight and started calorie counting. I set a goal of 185 by the wedding (September of the same year). I got there with 8 days to spare, and I love that I look fit and happy in all of our beautifully wedding photos.
The key is to start small, set attainable milestones, and have a support system. You need to feel and see success or you won’t stay motivated! I couldn’t have done it without my wife who helped by putting every calorie of every meal we made into the tracker. I made every five pounds a celebration, and a “cheat/treat” day. There will also always be set backs, and disappointing days/weeks. That’s where it’s important to keep perspective and be proud of how far you’ve come, and use that as motivation to keep going.
I once went 28 years without having sex, and then again for 7 years.
Start your resolution on December 1, and call the first month of progress a Christmas/Holiday present to yourself.
I’ve done no alcohol, no social media, and no overtime. All separate years. The motivation was to prove I could.
Alcohol was made easy because I started taking an SSRI at the same time. Kinda filled the same hole.
Cutting social media was harder than alcohol I think. This was years ago but I had a pretty solid addiction to Reddit. I had to break the checking Reddit every second of downtime…I swapped it out with texting friends and family.
Cutting worked overtime was great. I worked at a place that required it but only as a yearly average. And at the time they allowed you to bank the OT and use it as PTO or take some extra money. I didn’t get in trouble for it but it probably hurt my next raise.
I enjoy the challenge of doing something new for a full year but some are too much and need a different approach. For me to change a diet I can’t just do it. I need cycles on and off to show my lizard brain what’s good for me. Then it can stick long term.
People have lots of great tips for why resolutions fail and how to do them better
I heard another similar spin: pick a few areas of your life and have them be better than they are at the start of the year
Like say education or relationships with people, the goal is some kind of improvement by the end. You can go as big or as small within those afterwards.
